anyone out there with kids/babies close together in age whats the pros and cons?

Question

hi i have 2 daughters 20 months and 8 months i would really like another child soon would that be mad of me to do such a thing say get pregnant in like a year.
my 2 girls are a lot of work but i would like another(maybe a boy allthough it wouldent matter) and then be done with it raise my kids then go back to work and stay there without any pauses you no what i mean.
are there things that cant be done with 3 kids that you can do with 2 ect.
do any of you wish you just had only the 2 i want to no everything really also what sexes are they and how did they go in order thanks.
ps with some things i really no i want another baby and with others i am a bit hesitant so please help with you experience and opinions.

wow you ladies have definatly scared me off now no more kids for me i dont think lol

Answer 1

I am pregnant with my 4th child. My 1st child is a boy and he is 9 years old my 2nd child is a girl and she is 3 years old and my 3rd child is a girl and she is 2 years old. There is a 6 year difference between my 1st and 2nd child and a 15 month difference with my 2nd and 3rd. I am 35 weeks pregnant so there will be about a 2 year difference between my 3rd and 4th. I found it hard at 1st to have the girls so close together but after a month or so things began to get alot easier. They get along for the most part and keep each other busy.
As far as there being things you can do with 3 kids an not 2, i have no clue. I believe you can do more things with 2 kids than 3 cause it would be easier on you.
Having them closer together is best for me because i never had to put the baby stuff away and it was still fresh in my mind on what was going on with my kids and what their needs were. Plus, having them close in age makes it easier on me because i will still be a young mom when they are older, and will be able to do some of the things i wanted to do when they are all in school full time, like work hobbies, ect... So i wish you good luck and hope everything turns out for you.

Answer 2

I have four girls. Ages 7,6,4,3. My first two are 13 mts apart, theres a 2 year gap, and my last 2 are also 13 mts. apart. Ask yourself how much patience you have, and how much you like being a mother. My girls help keep each other busy, and sometimes teach thier little sisters to do all the devious little things they may have not pickep up yet on thier own. I spend almost all my time with my kids, and try to show each one individual attention whenever possible. Although it seems no matter what, one of them is feeling left out, or like they are not getting enough attention. That is a downfall, that the more you have, the less "you" there is for them to have all to themselves. But on the other hand, there is always a sibling willing to give a helping hand, play with them, give them a hug, or aggervate them. They are no strangers to sharing, and having to help clean up thier own messes. Changing diapers on 2 or 3 kids at a time is no easy chore. But diapers dont last forever. I find myself quite often ready to pull my hair out and muttering why didnt I stop with two. Like when I cant buy anything that doesnt come in a family pack, and when the only time I get to go to dinner is when Ponderosa is having thier kids eat free night, and when the house seems destroyed no matter how much I clean in a day, and when the are constantly fighting, yelling, crying and passing the flu back and forth for a month. But those moments pass quickly. At the end of the day, I can honestly say that I love having all four of them, even in thier close age.I have four times the problems, but also four times the joy. Its not for everyone, but if you think its something you want then you should go for it.

Answer 3

Ah, I completely relate to you here!!! I am going to be brutally honest.....I have three boys, 5yrs, 4yrs and 1 yr. Let me tell you, I wouldn't recommend it!!! Well, the first two children were fine, but when the third came along, the logistics were so difficult! I had a toddler running around loopy and a four year old demanding attention and a prem baby trying to breastfeed off me whilst I was tearing round the house after the loopy 2 year old. Painting a rosy picture here aren't I?!! lol!!! It is all very lovely now they are 5,4 and 1 and everything has calmed down and everyone knows their place a bit more, but honestly, the first six months were quite manic and dare I say it, depressing. It takes a brave lady to have three children under 4 years old, but I am often told how fabulous it is to have children very close in age and I am beginning to see now how lovely it is. I am sure you would be great at it, and whatever you decide, I wish you all the very best!

Answer 4

Well, I have a 6 yr old boy, a 2 1/2 year old boy, and a 14 month old girl. Those are my three. It has been very nice having my two youngest ones close in age b/c they are very close to each other. They laugh a lot, play a lot, it's beautiful. But the hard thing is I've got 2 in diapers. So, that means I've got double duty! Changing diapers gets kind of overwhelming sometimes. My 6 yr old helps me out a lot! It's great that he is older b/c he understands me when I speak to him, if I need help he's on top of it.
My 2 year old is in his temper tantrum, terrible two's stage, and my 14 month old watches him and copies him. Now she has learned to scream and yell whenever she wants something, and we are trying to teach them NOT to do it, but they are so young they don't really understand...at least my youngest doesn't. And with them being so young, you have 2 diapers to change, 2 baths to give, 2 bottles at night, 2 criers, 2 babies to get dressed. It's double duty! At least my 6 year old can dress himself, feed himself, bathe himself, he allows me to have more freedom, and that is great!
I would tell you that there are ups and downs with having kids so close together, I can't imagine having 3 very young ones. But hey, if you want it, more power to you!
The thing I'm liking is that now that I'm finished bearing children, I have started a career that I don't have to worry about losing b/c of a pregnancy, and I can exersize and work out and get in shape without worrying about getting pregnant and losing the shape again. I am going to have a tummy tuck and a breast lift, it's nice not having to worry about getting pregnant again and waiting to be able to do it. (With a tummy tuck you can't have any prior surgery for at least 6 months, and I had c-sections with all 3)

Answer 5

i became dealing with this too simply by fact I actual have a 5 month previous son and became thinking approximately any destiny infants. right this is what my record looks like: stable issues: - get each thing finished with (diapers, bottles, strollers) - would be close acquaintances undesirable issues: - i'd be exhausted - simply by fact i'd be so drained i'd be irritable and not as affected person - does no longer be waiting to savour my first born being a baby simply by fact being pregnant isn't a walk interior the park - would experience like i'm forcing my toddler to be older - looking after a new child is complicated; and a youthful baby would not have the techniques of what this is - does no longer be waiting to circulate extremely some places; my stroller would not constantly in wonderful condition no longer to point a double (this would possibly not appear like a huge deal to 3 yet i like to take my son places to discover and notice new people) - would have 2 of each thing like having twins almost (2 highchairs, 2 cribs, etc) - i prefer to be waiting to verify "you would be a huge brother" books to my son, prefer him to appreciate what's occurring and be waiting to earnings to help accessible is extra yet those are the main important motives. i prefer my infants to be close yet I additionally prefer to be the final mom i'm able to. For me for my section the stress of two decrease than 2 would be plenty and it would be complicated for me. If I actual have twins this is a different tale. So we are waiting 3-4 years between young infants; my sister and that i are 7 years aside and persons many times mistake us for twins and we are very close!

Answer 6

My oldest two are 11mo. and 28 days apart, then came the 3rd 14 months later, then came the last there is two year between them, but as far as getting along, its average sibling fighting. Mine are teens now, but yes i feel that it was easier, they all are close too, I have two boys and two girls, the boys will protect the girls and they protect the boys, but the girls always look out for each other more than the boys.. but thats teens for you.... I really im glad i got it out of the way, I look at it this way my oldest will be 18 in two years and i will only be 38 and i will be 42 when my youngest is 18. So i do believe yes that it was easier.

Answer 7

Well, I am pregnant with my second so I'm not sure how much help I will be, but I just ran across your question and wanted to be supportive. everyone called my crazy too, but I got a method to my madness, and its alot of what you already named, and its also that I'm 27 and want 3 kids before im 30, i too want them to be friends and go to school and play sports ets together i think they wil have fun that way. And I'm already in "baby mode" meaning I'm still used to it all, I still have all my stuff, I still am kinda chunky so I really dont mind the pregnancies, i want to get them all over with, and mostly because it just feels right to me to not wait too long. It seems like it feels right to you, so you do what you feel like and follow your heart. Don't worry about what people say too much you will drive yourself crazy. Do what your heart says. Good luck!

Answer 8

I have a 4,5, and almost 7 year old I love that they are close in age they are best friends they fight but they are brothers.they talk to each other play ,help they stick up for each other they do ever thing together

Answer 9

go on what can it hurt..