look, i really love this girl that goes to my school and we flirt casually even though she has a boyfriend. i like give her advice on stuff because im good at it and we are going through simmilar issues (that's really the basis of our friendship.) but she has told me that she actually LOVES a guy in the 8th grade (we're in the 7th) and not just a crush, actual love, and i think she knows that i like her, but, i dont know at all if she likes me, what should i do?
2007-02-12 09:39:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Welcome to the friend zone. Once you're identified as a friend, you can forget about a romantic encounter. Hate to be blunt, but you're on that list. Your chances would actually be much better if she saw you as an enemy (although it's best to be somewhere in between). Move on to someone else. And talking to you about somebody else she likes - that's a dead give-away, a bright red light, a definite no... (Nothing is stopping you from keeping her as a friend, but don't expect anything more).
2007-02-12 09:44:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, tell her the truth. If she likes you to, it could probably be a very good relationship. If she doesn't, it may affect your friendship, but no more than her hooking up with that other guy. Then you won't spend the rest of your time in school together wondering what would have happened.
(P.S. She's not in love with this guy, even if she thinks she is.)
2007-02-12 17:46:50 · answer #2 · answered by calliope320 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out. If you stay her friend that's all she'll ever be. She may be in love with the other guy but things change, she might fall out of love, maybe he doesn't even know she exists and they'll never get together, maybe she'll figure well, I'm in love with x but I could go out with (you) and see what happens, maybe she'll fall for you. But be prepared in case she never falls out of love with him. Decide if you still want to pursue her and know you might get your heart broken. But you'll go through several 'loves', you're very young.
Sorry, I just re-read your question and you say she has a boyfriend? And she loves someone else? Hm, I don't know about that, she might do the same to you.
2007-02-12 17:46:46 · answer #3 · answered by strawberry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not possible to be in love in 7th grade or 8th for that matter...wait a few years and find out what true love really is!
2007-02-12 17:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is off in a dream and drama world of her own construction.
Here's the plan: Continue the course and be her friend. Eventually (and it may take a while) she will realize that the other guy has moved on. That's when you can see whether the attraction is there.
2007-02-12 17:44:45 · answer #5 · answered by Thomas K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She told you she is in love with someone in the 8th grade, so just continue to be her friend until the time is right. You have plenty of time.
2007-02-12 17:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take my word on this..please.. you're very, very young. What your feeling for her is just an infacuation, which means that you think you're in love, but you just really really like this person and admire this person. There will be plenty of girls that your going to feel this for, trust me! So don't force yourself on her, espcially since she has a boyfriend that she says she's in love with. You don't want to get involved in other people's relationship. So let her come to you and move on. Like I said, your still very young and your going to meet plety of other girls that will be interested in you. I promise you!
2007-02-12 17:45:12 · answer #7 · answered by sweet_truth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would wait till you know what love really is. You can't base love on things that are identical issues, although that would explain straight men having sex in prisons.
2007-02-12 17:42:48 · answer #8 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she might just be playin when she said I like a dude in the 8th because she might want you to back off and let her come to you.
2007-02-12 17:45:27 · answer #9 · answered by Johnnny 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing good will ever come of interfering in another's relationship ( not saying you are) Continue to be friends....but hold no hopes for anything else....ya need to meet other people. If things are meant to be it will happen.
2007-02-12 17:48:40 · answer #10 · answered by Thankyou4givengmeaheadache 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋