ok my boyfriend and i havn't had intercourse yet, i don't know if i'm ready yet, so i'm afraid he'll ask me for intercourse, and i don't want to say no, cause that might hurt his feelings, so should i lie and say i was raped so he'll feel bad and will hold off asking me for intercourse for a while?
2007-02-12 09:28:04 · 8 answers · asked by US 3 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PLEASE do not tell him that! Look, you sound like you might be pretty young so let me offer some good advice: Don't get into the habit of lying for any reason. If you'll lie about something that big, you'll lie about anything. The best thing you can do is tell him the truth. It will be better for you if you sit him down in a safe place. Don't wait until you're making out and all hot and bothered to mutter: "um...maybe...i'm not quite ready, kinda..." Because if he's getting his hopes up then that will be quite a let down, and if you put yourself in that situation you could very well end up caving and doing something that you'll regret forever. Be honest, be straightforward. Simple as that.
2007-02-12 09:42:34 · answer #1 · answered by claire5star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie, being raped is nothing to lie or joke about. Just tell him the truth, that you are not ready. If he can't understand that, then you don't need to be with him anyway. Good luck.
2007-02-12 17:35:57 · answer #2 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I just looked at all of your questions....looks like you need to have help with some of your own issues before even trying to make a relationship work! Lying is no way to work on things. Just tell him the truth, and get some help.
2007-02-12 17:39:49 · answer #3 · answered by karen p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do him a favor and leave him. Why would he want to be with a liar. If you can't even be honest with him, then you really aren't ready for sex. You are sorry!
2007-02-12 17:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by Eldude 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont say that.... that is so wrong... just tell him the truth... just say ur not ready for it yet.... if u say u were rape.... he might even break up with u after a while.....
just tell him the truth no matter how scary it might be.....
2007-02-12 17:32:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you seriously an idiot? If you aren't ready, then TELL HIM!!! Who cares how HE feels, it's how YOU feel. Telling him you were raped is a stupid idea!
2007-02-12 17:32:15 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be honest with him and if the subject comes up...just tell him the truth...that u are not ready....dont worry about hurtin his feelingz...don't go there if u aren't ready....and dont make up any stories!
2007-02-12 17:36:53 · answer #7 · answered by crazyrichgurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
depends on your age (use protection, again depending on your age)
you havent specified if you want to have sex or not......ill assume not
just say no, if he's really your boyfriend he'l understand
(if you say no, you could add in "im just not ready" or something)
2007-02-12 17:32:23 · answer #8 · answered by Peace35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋