after 4 years? Does it mean we love each other less than couples who have been together a shorter time an are considering it? It's been nearly four years but neither of us wants to move in together until it's more practical. (i am at uni and he is doing an apprenticeship about 2 n half hours away) Sometimes people seem to think we aren't that comitted to each other but we are
2007-02-12 09:10:22 · 6 answers · asked by String of pearls 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry about what other people think and say and do what you think is best for you... if you both don't think living together would be a good idea right now, then it's probably not. I have a similar situation, everyone thinks I should already be married b/c I've been with my b/f for 5 years and my friends are trying to beat me to the altar, so I know what it feels like to have some pressure about things like this, but I know that if I got married right now, it wouldn't be a good idea since we're not exactly ready for it...
2007-02-12 09:16:20 · answer #1 · answered by F.J. 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're probably more committed to each other than the losers who are just shacked up for convenience. Think about it - your friends have nothing more than "room-mates with privileges". You two have a bond without being forced into it!! Marriages have a 10 times better chance of succeeding from couples who did NOT live together before marriage as well. That is an accepted FACT. People who live together often get married because it is expected. People who live at home or with other friends (i.e. 3 girls sharing a house, etc.) and then get engaged , set a date and then get married within 6 months are the ones who will succeed. You two are living the dream and your loser friends are just wanting to pressure you into joining their misery. They probably can't understand what true love and trust and commitment is. Do they live together because maybe they don;t TRUST each other out of sight. I have a friend who lives 1500 miles from her boyfriend. I know for a FACT that , although they see each other only every 8 weeks and have done this for 3 years as he attends law school, they both remain faithful and monogomous. They are not getting engaged until he graduates this summer and they can set a date for the wedding when he buys the ring. Then they can plan a wedding and know that it is real and true and trusting. Don't listen to your loser friends. They are jealous. Follow your heart and your BRAIN. Good luck! You two deserve the very best.
2007-02-12 09:20:58 · answer #2 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think living together or not proves commitment in a relationship...My husband and I dated for about 6 years and did not move in together until about 2 months before our wedding...
As long as you and your boyfriend know and trust that the commitment is there, who cares what other people's opinions are!
2007-02-12 09:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by JesJ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Living together may change your relationship, If you can live together without fighting, give it a try. (I lived with a girlfriend & all we did was fight, so that taught me what being married at the wrong time can be like.)
2007-02-12 09:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by strange-artist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
people are losers and insecure so they force a quick move in to keep tabs on the other. have fun and good for you two
2007-02-12 09:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
who cares what people think as long as you know...when the time is right you will know it
2007-02-12 09:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋