hey should we do it or not?

Question

hey i have been married for 3 week snow and we are thinking about havinga kid should we

Answer 1

I think you should wait at least a year after you've been married to even start to consider having kids... to make sure you're emotionally and financially able to handle kids... and you don't know what could happen in that amount of time, especially since marriages are hardest in their first years.. and you don't want to have a kid to throw into that mix... and you might want some "you and him" time before having kids.

Answer 2

The answer is simple.....

You can have money or you can have kids....lol
Before we had kids (I have 2) we were very comfortable living as we were. Then we had our first baby. Let me tell you that was the best day of my life. But the downside was that we went back to one income which wasnt very easy. Then we figured out that a 5 minute trip to the shops took at least an hour by the time you get ready and organise baby stuff. And thats just the beginning. Mind you I wouldnt swap it for anything but my point is if your not in a financial position (workwise or need to buy a new car) then you may be in a little trouble. Look at your budgets, research your childcare costs, change of vehicle if necessary, nappies, etc and make an informed decision. Dont get me wrong...having the kids was and is the most amazing thing....but if I had known then what I know now then we might have waited a bit longer before trying for one.
Good luck with your decision...and good luck with your future family.

Answer 3

I think 3 week is too early into the marriage, maybe you should wait a bit longer. Get to know each other well, better, and enjoy each other as much as you can now that it's just the two of you. Cause once that baby comes along it comes for the long run 18+ years. I don't mean to scare it's just a thought. But if it's something both of you guys want and it feels right, and you both want that then go ahead. Just remember your newllyweds enjoy yourselfs.
Hope it helps!

Answer 4

We do not know the state of your marriage. We do not know how financially stable you and your husband are.

This is not a question anyone can give you advice on. Think over it carefully--a child is going to change EVERYTHING. Whatever priorities you had before, they are going to have to take a backseat; your child is your world, your first and most important priority. Your marriage, your relationship with your husband, your career, your hobbies, travelling, everything in your life comes after the wellbeing of your child. Are you ready for that? Can you emotionally handle raising a child? Financially?

From the simple fact that you think that this forum is an appropriate way of making such a decision, I'm going to say "No", that you are not secure enough in your new marriage and not ready to care for a child.

Answer 5

In my personal opinion, no, you should not have a child yet, take some time to get to know each other and to do all the things you want to do together, take trips etc... Once you have a child your whole life changes and you never have time to travel or to be alone. Unless your in your 30's, definately take a year or two before having kids.

Answer 6

if you think the time is right then go ahead. if you want my true opinion though, i think that you need to wait a few months because you need to make sure that the marriage is going to work before you get a kid involved. you do not know if it is going to work out or not just being married for three weeks. you two are adults though, do what you think should be done.

Answer 7

only you 2 can answer that. are you ready? able to handle this emotionally, financially and all that? good luck!