Okay, this is kinda a long story. But please keep reading. I need someone else's opinion because I am soooo confused.
By boyfriend and I have been dating for about 15 months, and our relationship has been going great! Or so I thought we were doing okay. But maybe we're not.
My boyfriend is really close-knit with his neighborhood, so of course I expect him to hang with his friends, even the girls, right? But there's this one girl who he met recently through his "long lost cousin" at school (we all go to the same one). The cousin was over at the friend's house, so they invited themselves over to my boyfriend's house to hang. The first time was okay, because they were probably just curious, but it's kind of grown into something.
Now they hang out a lot on the weekends. I mean, me and him hang, but is it appropriate for him to hanging out with the two girls without me at his house? To make matters worse, both girls like him.
I don't want to sound controlling and tell him that they can't come over anymore because I know they're friends, but...does this sound like something that could turn into cheating?? or do you think he already is? what do you think I should do?
2007-02-12 09:01:40 · 18 answers · asked by Lady Sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Next time they want to hang out together, ask him if you can come too. Either he'll feel weird about having you there (which means he probably is or is thinking about cheating) or you'll see that you have nothing to worry about.
2007-02-12 09:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah M 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its very weird he doesn't invite you along. It doesn't matter if they are friends or not.
I would have a serious talk with him about whats appropriate behavior in a relationship. You don't hang out with the opposite sex if they have a clear attraction towards you. Its playing with fire and disrespectful. Sure he can hang out with girls. But not when they are "Interested" in him. Especially without you
Next time ask him if you can come along. If he makes excuses why he doesn't want you there. you can be a 110% sure he is up to no good.
If your boyfriend thinks you are being controlling. Just show him this answer..
2007-02-12 17:07:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would he spend time with them instead of u? he should be with u in his free time , not them!. And he thinks it's normal? Not to mention u. Girl wake up! It's obvious there's something going on. These girls like him, so what do u think they are there for? to watch tv with him? pleaseee.
get yourself a guy-friend and hang with him all the time. Over your house, his house-whatever. I guarantee u your boyfriend will not like it. Explain to him, that it's the same situation- two girls and him, U r just friends with this guy. If he will tell u to get rid of this guy u will know something happened between him and those girls. Something u wouldn't like it eighter. Good luck.
2007-02-12 17:21:01 · answer #3 · answered by ninusia4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea...see when someone new comes into the picture something is going on usaully because he finds someone he can really click with....now if they weren't "new" friends it wouldnt be that big of a deal but since there not...something could happen....when you start questioning your self that's when something is going on because you can sense it other wise you wouldn't be asking this question....people can usaully tell when they are being cheated on just some people decide not to see it.....listen to your gut because the heart doesn't like to see the truth if it knows it will hurt.......
2007-02-12 18:25:12 · answer #4 · answered by Baby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
confront him ... listen if he's good he'll explain that there's nothing going on and that there jest hanging out and that there is nothing for you to worry about. Remember ask in a nice way with a soft voice and you'll git a soft answer. But if he flies off the handle an gits all defensive you might wanna start worrying
2007-02-12 17:23:43 · answer #5 · answered by smooth76 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Is he spendin more time with them than with u? Cos then it would be an issue. But if he's still paying u more attention than them then its only a mates thing. Has he changed in any way? Like putting more effort into his appearance when he's gonna be spendin time with them or his attitude towards u. That's another give away.
2007-02-12 17:07:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that u should just check it out for awhile, and if anything looks suspicious, like ur bf not wanting u to c his cell phone or sumthing, then ask him about it!! But, if he likes u alot, he wont cheat on u.
2007-02-12 17:06:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ask him if you can come over sometime when those girls are there. see what his reaction is... if he sounds like he doesnt really want you to, more than likely he's cheating on you. if he sounds all up for it, then you have nothing to worry about.
2007-02-12 17:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
To me it sounds like he is cheating. Why else would he have two girls there when your not? HMMMMM. I would talk to him and find out what is going on.
2007-02-12 17:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get 2 guy friends and see how he likes that over your house or better yet bring them to his house with ya
2007-02-12 17:09:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋