and there is no spark? Does this mean that this spark will never exist? LEts say that this person is everything you want except there is no spark. Can this "spark/connection/butterflies, come at a future time, or if it isnt there now it will never be there?
2007-02-12 08:52:16 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just for clarification purposes... im a guy not a girl.. haha. and this was the excuse she gave me.. not the other way around.. sorry about the confusion.
2007-02-12 09:09:57 · update #1
It doesn't have to show up in every kiss. Some kisses are blah, and some kisses are "wow!" and some kisses are in between.
2007-02-12 08:56:09 · answer #1 · answered by Alecto 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It all depends on what are your expectations at that particular moment. It might develop into a friendly relationship, a kind of brotherly love, or a passionate relationship. From the first kiss one can't tell for sure! However you can guess pretty well on how the chemistry goes after a few times. Some people prefer romance to a more sensual relationship and it takes time to develop with a new person. They need to trust the person, and others are in a way predators...LOL... Then sparks/ connection/ butterflies flick their bic so to speak ! LOL
Good luck in whatever you are searching for.
Be happy
2007-02-12 09:07:56 · answer #2 · answered by montralia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kissing someone isnt like it is in the movies. Sometimes there's a spark and sometimes there isnt. It doesnt change the person, or your relationship. There is sometimes butterflies though, especially in the first kiss, when your both nervous. But dont expect it to be like in the movies
2007-02-12 09:01:04 · answer #3 · answered by angellover6056 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is 'everything you want' maybe there's no spark because you are trying too hard. just let things be. go out, have fun, enjoy the company of each other and if the spark is meant to come, it will. You learn to be with each other.
2007-02-12 08:57:03 · answer #4 · answered by Selma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its all psychological. There doesnt need to be a spark maybe what you think is a spark is really not the spark others describe.
Were you happy when he kissed you? Did it feel good to be loved?
2007-02-12 08:55:20 · answer #5 · answered by hu5t14 (Jay) 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's a little cliche that you have to feel an immediate "spark" with someone or there's nothing. I say if you really like her give things a little time, you body can do strange things when you're nervious, even if you don't realize it.
Give it a chance, you might end up with a great relationship.
2007-02-12 08:58:05 · answer #6 · answered by Kimberly P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard question to answer. i would think that there should be sparks right off the bat. i would say give it a little while and see how it goes. mybe both of you were really nervous the first go round, and it could get better.however, if it continues this way maybe this personisnt the one for you, cause to fal in love you need it all
2007-02-12 08:57:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't believe in what u see in the movies. There is no magic. Sure your heart can beat faster, your palms get sweaty. That's because you are nervous. It's a chemical reaction in your body. Nothing else. Don't erase this girl from your your phone because there was no spark. Hopely sex will be great.
2007-02-12 09:05:49 · answer #8 · answered by ninusia4ever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest going on a couples retreate together. I don't know where you are, but my church has one. It's awesome. If you can't do a retreate, try buying a book and studying it together. Have devotional time.
One other thing. Arrange 1 day per week that you go on a date. No matter what, that day is for being alone. That dedicaiton awakens a very deep side of you heart.
2007-02-12 09:07:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no not really. im afraid if theres no connection from the beginning, there'll never be. this person might be everything you would consider to be perfect, but if there is no connection then it wont work. i mean its supposed to happen fast and all of a sudden, from the very beginning. that's why they are called sparks.
2007-02-12 08:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
whilst i became 14 I have been given my first boyfriend, and that summer time we in simple terms pecked on the lips. Like, I went to kiss his cheek and he grew to become his face. and then i did no longer see him lower back till Christmas break, yet we'd spoken alot approximately kissing. So as quickly as I observed him (i became 15 then) we went for a walk and we sat down in the back of a church :-s and then all of us started out closed-mouth kissing, however the kisses have been given speedier and quickly our mouths weren't leaving each others- so fairly- we've been french kissing without tongues. Er... and then i think of the subsequent time we've been like- um... shall we attempt with tongues... and we did! It became fairly severe-high quality via fact it became the two one in all our first cases and we've been in simple terms unembarrased so in simple terms learnt plenty from one yet another!
2016-12-17 08:28:51 · answer #11 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋