If you were a guy and you knew some other guy caused women to think you were gay what would you do to him?

Question

I could actually sit back at a public place 2 years ago and hear the guy telling the woman I wanted to go out with that I was gay. He was very insistant about it. I think that he and others started this because I decided I wanted to go out with this woman more than the other one that they were already trying to hook me up with. The way I viewed it was...I had liked this more age appropriate woman in the first place before liking the one they wanted to hook me up with and I had made no commitments to anyone so I was a free man. The rumors eventually became coffee shop wide and by my estimates cost me many opportunities to date at least one great lady. The employees had jumped on the gay-train and had lassoed in a few customers as well. It sure was weird. One day this woman comes in and gives me a discreet once over. She asks someone at the counter, "what about him?" This idiot spits out, "he's gay." I was not really attracted to her but, these guttersnipes wrecked me for alot of others.

Answer 1

I think you have to go to the women who have been told this and tell them it is a lie, and you do not understand why this guy has been spreading the rumor, but maybe it's like the teenage girl who knows the power of her lie: "If you do it I'll never tell, but if you don't, I'll tell them you did and have you up on statutory rape."

That is to say, perhaps the guy is upset because HE's gay and you didn't come on to him. After all, most people don't make it a point to go around telling stories about someone else's sex life, do they? If it is common in your circle of friends, you need new friends! (OK, in this case co-workers. Maybe you should be dusting off your resume and looking for somewhere that does not have this kind of drama.)