Screaming kids?

Question

Why is it that parents have to tote their screaming kids around in public? I was at the mall yesterday and there was a kid screaming at the top of her lungs and banging on the dressing room doors. It was a mom, daughter and a baby (maybe 2 years old). The mom was holding the kid while the daughter kept trying on clothes, she was telling the daughter that they needed to go and put the baby down for a nap. I was in the store for about an hour and kept running into them with their screaming child. They were pushing around a stroller that laid back-but it was full of bags. A friend of mine works at the store and went up to them and asked them to calm down their child or leave the store.
Am I wrong to think that parents should be more considerate of others?

Answer 1

Not at all. I think parents need to either shut their little sweethearts up or leave them at home with a sitter. I realize it's hard to raise a kid and that it's a big responsibility, but that doesn't mean that people who don't have kids should have to listen to someone else's little angel screaming its lungs out in a public place. If the parents can't leave the little darling home with another relative or a babysitter, then maybe they shouldn't have had kids to begin with.

I have a reputation for being a very nice person and very good with kids. But even I have my limits. When I am in a store that has very good acoustics (like Wal-Mart, Sam's Club or any warehouse environment) and someone's precious little bundle of joy starts screaming like a banshee, I truly do expect my ears to start bleeding. It hurts worse than being kicked.

If the mother is trying to calm her child down and saying stuff like, "No, no...we don't scream in the store..." then I'm not angry. At least she realizes that her child's screaming is disturbing other people and is trying to correct the situation. But if the mother is ignoring her screaming child or even worse, encouraging it to scream, (saying stuff like, "Oh, you are the cutest thing!", ad nauseum) I really do have to choke down the urge to hand her a pair of socks and tell her stuff it down the little angel's throat.

Yes, children are a wonderful thing, but they need to be taught to behave so to better fit in with the rest of society. Parents may choose for their lives to revolve around their children, but that doesn't mean that the rest of society should have to as well!

Answer 2

Yes and no.

Kids scream, particularly around the 2 to 3 year old variety and sometimes there is very little you can do about it. You can be the best parent in the world and bring your child up in a firm, supportive and loving manner and they will still sometime just go off on one with no way of consoling them.

And often parents can be at their wits end with no way of stopping the child and limited time to get done what they need to do. Mothers are often dog tired, socially isolated and have some post natal depression to cope with. They might be able to get out the house only once a week and that could be when the child decides to have a tantrum. What you gonna do?

On the other hand the way you describe this mother makes her sound like she has no consideration for others. I work in a public space and some mothers drag thier babies around crying without trying to comfort them, often leaving them strapped in the chair for an hour and ignoring them. If I was strapped in a push chair for an hour being ignored I'd make a lot of noise about it.

Screaming kids? A fact of life.
Are parents inconsiderate? Some are and some are not.

Answer 3

A two year old is not always behaving that way. It all boils down to good old discipline. And you can see who is the parent in the house when you walk in a shopp. What these parents do not realize is that they are not doing any one a favor. And not the sweet little kid either.

It is very rude. IF you are going to the shop and have kids, take something with to keep them busy. And teach them from a young age, that just as you give time for them to do what they want, they need to do the same.

This whole thing of lets give them space to find themselves and do what they want is the biggest load of nonsense. If kids were meant to grow up like that they would never have had parents.

You are not wrong. And all kids do not behave like that.

Answer 4

confident and no. little ones scream, quite around the two to 3 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous style and now and back there is quite little you're able to do approximately it. you would be the final ascertain interior the international and convey your infant up in an enterprise, supportive and loving way and that they're going to nonetheless sometime basically flow off on one without way of consoling them. and generally mom and father would be at their wits end without way of struggling with the youngster and constrained time to get completed what they'd desire to do. mothers are generally dogs drained, socially remoted and function some post natal melancholy to look after. they'd have the skill to get out the homestead basically as quickly as a week and which could be whilst the youngster comes to a decision to have a tantrum. What you gonna do? on the different hand the type you describe this mom makes her sound like she has no attention for others. I paintings in a public area and a few mothers drag thier little ones around crying without attempting to convenience them, generally leaving them strapped interior the chair for an hour and ignoring them. If i grew to become into strapped in a push chair for an hour being left out i'd make a lot of noise approximately it. Screaming little ones? A reality of existence. Are mom and father thoughtless? some are and a few are no longer.

Answer 5

I wonder about this all the time. I can understand perhaps a parent who is attempting to calm down their child, and eventually succeeds, as children can be children. However, if to no avail it becomes apparent that the child will not behave - do the right thing and leave the scene. What you do in your own home, vehicle is one thing, but when you are out in public you need to be respectful of others. It's too bad she couldn't have left the baby at home with dad so the other child and her could have had some nice quality time shopping together.

Answer 6

I work in a mall and I feel your pain...about 25 hours a week I feel your pain. There are times when I want to tell a parent to just muzzle their child and leave, but I can't. I know that I can't be all that honest with my feelings when I am getting paid to do a job involving the public.
However, I have seen better socially trained dogs than I have ever seen children. You cant ASK a child to be quiet and not to touch anything, you need to TELL them. You = parent or legal guardian, not some random stranger.
We gotta start teaching kids to respect other peoples property young, otherwise why on earth should they magically understand not to vandalize when they're in their teens & beyond. Why on earth should they respect anyone else when they're teenagers if we start teaching about respect at an early age.

Answer 7

unfortunately we are not all blessed with childcare and we are sometimes driven by the need for food/clothing/essential items to have to go shopping and take the kids with us! at 2 years old that infant was trying to communicate his needs. on the other hand anyone with any sense would have put the baby in the stroller and hooked the bags onto the handles. i sincerely hope that when you have a child you get a good one cos believe me, I've brought up 5 and 2 of them were screamers from Hell!!!

Answer 8

I would have been a little tougher on the girl if the 2 yo was tired. Instead of just telling her to hurry up, I would have told her to pick up whatever she had selected and gone home.

That said, since I don't have kids, it's easy for me to think that people with kids are inconsiderate or that they should have their kids under control at all times. However, fact is that a parent can't stay at home all the time with kids. Work has to be done at its time. We can not bar the parents out of shops because it "bothers" us. I think what you friend did was not nice.

What was the store name? If they want, I can help them and let all my friends and family members with kids know that they are not welcome at that store (regardless of the fact that the store sells childrens' clothing and should expect children and their noise).

Answer 9

you're not wrong. i think that there comes a point when children who are either screaming or misbehaving need to be removed from the situation and taken to a place where they are not disturbing other people. it is frustrating when parents don't watch their children and allow them to act like monsters in public. my parents would have killed me if that had happened when i was growing up.

Answer 10

Well, there are lessons that need to be learned by a child of any age. Sometimes those lessons are that they cannot get his/her way by behaving badly.
Only a few times did I need to leave a store with a screaming child. And had to visit the bathroom of a local Wal-mart just once with one.
Although parents should be considerate of others with regard to their screaming child, it is a no win situation.
Gratefully you did not have to go home with that screaming child and, honestly, an hour of listening to it is better than being that child's mother and having to listen to it for a couple of years.
As irritating as it is, I think a little tolerance would not hurt anyone with this matter. I feel for those parents whose child screams and makes life miserable for them while out. I have been there and done that and it wasn't fun for anyone involved.