Should my feelings be hurt?

Question

I went shopping the other day to get my husband a vday present. Money is tight so i just got him a big box of chocolate and a nice card. I told him that i did not get him something big so for him not to go all out. He said he was going shopping today for some things for our baby. He actually went shopping twice today, once by himself and the baby then again with his dad to get his mom something for v-day. Today i decided to go to a school uniforms store and get a catholic school girl uniform for a special valentine's night. We are not going to be able to celebrate v-day on v-day because he has to work so i called him to tell him that we would celebrate it tonight since we are going to eat dinner with his parents tomorrow night. I asked him if he got something so we could exchange gifts tonight and he said he did not because he did not think about it. I know i am a girl and i am probably over reacting, but my feelings are really hurt that he is not putting more thought into this

Answer 1

Yeah, your feelings should be hurt, but honey, he's just a M-A-N. You just happen to have married the type of man who isn't into the special days and being thoughtful and all. Keep your chin up and let it go this time, but after today you need to start TRAINING him to remember stuff like this. That means talking about your anniversary, Christmas, birthday, etc. a whole month before the event. Lots of hints about what you like, what kind of card you like getting (funny or sweet), leaving him sticky notes telling him not to forget your special day. Some men are just so clueless, and I'm sorry you have one of those kind. But hopefully, he is good to you in many other ways, so just learn to accept him for his faults as well as his strengths.

P.S. - In the future, if he still doesn't get you anything after all those hints you leave for him, then I'd say he needs an appointment with the iron skillet . . . . upside the ole head!

Answer 2

Ok, I understand your feelings are hurt but you don't actually know if he got you anything or not. Just because he said he didn't doesn't mean he didn't. Sometimes people want to surprise you. Also, you did say money is tight so maybe his mind is truly on the finances which is a very loving act in the end. It may not result in immediate satisfaction but it does show that he cares enough not to blow money. In the true spirit of things you should share the box of chocolates, give him the card and have a great time tonight with that catholic school uniform. I can honestly say my husband is not always the best at remembering some types of holidays but he means well. If I really thought he didn't care I'd be angry but he shows me he loves me everyday.
I hope you have a great evening!!!!!! (maybe he really did get a little something after all)

Answer 3

I think you shouldn't have asked him. I understand you are hurt now (and you were excited I guess to find out what you might get - or if you were getting something) but..men wait to the last minute. Today is Monday and V-day isn't for two more days. You probably blew the wind out of his sails for whatever he was going to get you (or for what he may have already gotten you) by asking. I mean after all you DID say money was tight - you mention you have a baby and that you just bought him chocolates and a card and that you TOLD h im not to go all out - so maybe he was just going to grab some candy and a card on Wed. Why would you expect anything after telling him that? I'm just curious. Anyway - I hope it all works out and you both have a nice V-day.

Answer 4

If you don't have a lot of money, take the school uniform back, for starters. Give him the chocolates and card, as you originally planned. I understand your feelings being hurt. I would feel the same way. However, you never know; maybe he got you something and will surprise you. What has he done in the past? That will be your clue as to whether you should expect anything from him or not. Being insensitive doesn't begin spontaneously right before Valentine's Day one year. He will have a history of being insensitive.

Answer 5

I think Valentine's day is on the 14th and guys are known for shopping for their girls last minute. If he doesn't get you something on the actual day, then you be upset. Just wait..They even like to surprise you sometimes!! Don't stress before you really have a reason to..

Answer 6

You shouldnt' have asked him if he got you a gift. YOu should simply have requested to celebrate it tonight and left it at that. If he wanted to get you something, he's still have had time, and if he had ALREADY got you something, you'd not have ruined the suprise.

Answer 7

i think he not thinking about how u fell cause if he was he have bought u something o ready