Boyfriend tells his mom everything about relationship?

Question

Okay, so my boyfriend's mom is unemployed so really does nothing with herself so she just butts in our relationship and he tells her what's going on. I put my foot down when it comes to the personal stuff and doesn't tell her that. But it does get really annoying when his Mom starts calling me (I don't pick up). I want him to handle his own problems instead of getting his mom involved. I know you all are gunna say he's a mama's boy.. so does anyone have any OTHER advice for me? Thanks!

Answer 1

Tell his Mom that you don't appreciate her bothering you. If that doesn't work, I suggest you drop him. She's over-protective and
going to only cause more trouble.

Answer 2

Yes, he is. When a guy is a mama's boy it is hard to shake her off because she knows she has a lock on him, so you have to deal with him personally and not with the mom. Because mama can mess with his head and tell him whatever. Believe me, my dad is a m.b., my ex and my current boyfriend, so I know. Well you could always give him a taste of his own medicine and put your mama in his grill and give your mama his number and call him up and nag him. But you need to tell him that your guys's business should be behind closed doors and not in his mother's ear. He needs to respect the fact that your relationship issues are okay to talk about with her, but at the same time don't let her be the mediator everytime. You two need to work things out on your own, and tell him maybe he can fall back from telling her every fart that's let out about you two and that if you are mature adults, let's handle this ourselves, but dont' let her make his decisions about how he should handle it. And if it's getting to the point where it's getting on your nerves, serve him with an ultimatum because believe me, if you guys are in a serious relationship and are considering marriage, you don't want that monster-in-law consuming your whole life...Does she have a man or a husband? If not, tell him to find her a date so she can be worried about a man of her own...
i wish you luck because you're gonna need it girl.

Answer 3

Yes. TALK TO HIM AND HIS MUM TOGETHER. It doesn't matter what his relationship with his mum is. It matters that he keeps your relationship with him to yourselves.

Mums should not butt in all the time. He's old enough to handle the responsibility of a relationship, and mummy ought to be old enough to realise and understand this.

Get together with the both of them and explain calmly how you feel your privacy is being violated by so much information being shared. Tell her that it hurts your feelings when she begins ringing (phoning) you. Tell him that you want him to be able to fix his problems on his own.

If they take it personally, let them know it wasn't meant like that. Tell them that you are just wanting the privacy afforded to you by having a private, personal relationship. Whilst she make bring up the fact that he is, in fact, her son...tell her that it is, in fact, YOUR relationship with him that is in question, not hers.

Certainly you don't want a big row over this, yeh? It's crucial that no yelling take place, and you might want to start by acknowledging and apologising for not answering his mum's phone calls. It shows disrespect to the parent and can cause problems in the relationship.

Just be calm, direct, and open to a discussion. It should clear up.

I hope for the best for you!

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Answer 4

like said before either dump him or put up with it you already know he's a mommas boy it aint going to change but on the other hand you know he'll always take good care of you if you ask me fair trade , or you could just talk to his mom about it go over his head so to say which may cuase problems but life is compermise really i think you should just deal when/if you get married you'll see her at the wedding and then move problem solved (nobody likes thier mother inlaws anyways)

Answer 5

I'm sorry that you don't want to hear it, but he is a mama's boy...to the extreme. But tell me this, what else can you do besides letting him know how you feel? If he doesn't even pay attention to your feelings, then what is the point of you being with him? God, he tells his MOTHER????!!!! The woman who is going to analyze everything that you do and don't do??? What kind of punk a'ss....let me stop....if it bothers you so much, do something about it...take some kind of action. What that action is....hell if I know, it's truly up to you to make this decision. You could leave him or you could stay....there's some OTHER advice for you. You're welcome.

Answer 6

he has always had is mom to help him with his problems but now that he has u. u 2 can work out the problems together.

Answer 7

Gurl, be nice to his mother and let her know dat d relationship is of her son and you.... that your trying to be nice about it but she has no business in your relationship.......... if not tell him is either his mom or you..

Answer 8

dump
him
now