my question is that is it normal for me to be mad that my family is not coming to my wedding. I'm marrying my fiance whom is in the airforce and we are extremely happy toghether , he's 34 and im 22 but he looks like he's 27 so please don't judge us right away . Anyway his family is supporting us and are excited for us but my family hasn't so much as even called to say congrats or responded on the invitations , i know my stepmom has alot to do with all this drama and she lied to my dad about some stuff and he has decided not to come . my sister has also decided not to come . im very hurt cause i wanted my dad to walk me down the aisle but he has made it clear he 's not coming . my fiance dad has been asked by me to walk me down the aisle and he's happy to do the honor , and that makes me happy also that i'll have my future father in law doing it for me . i've tried several times to ask my dad to come and my sister and my stepmom and each of them have proceeded to say no .
2007-02-12 08:05:21 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Neither my husbands nor my family came to our wedding, even though they all wished us luck. We were both 30, four years together and now celebrated 10 years of happy marriage with three children. We simply lived 800 km's away and no-one bothered to make the trip.
So don't be too upset, you make your own happy future.
But do consider this: Do they have any valid reason for their reaction? Did anything happen? Is this man trustworthy and respectable? You might have children with him.. will he be a good father and role model? How long have you been together? Do you know him well enough?
Only you can answer this, as based on your description no-one on the net can really judge this situation without knowing all the facts.
Only you know the truth. If you really think you have found true love, then go ahead. Your family will accept him in time, but please do not hold a grudge. As a parent, I know we only want the best for our children and if your parents feel this strongly, maybe, just maybe, there really is a reason...
2007-02-20 03:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by Aussie mum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st let me say congratulations to your fiance. Your soon to be father in law sounds like a nice guy. I know you would prefer your dad there but, trust me when I say this as I talk from experience Let your family be. Do not continue to ask them to go.
They are adults and if they feel so strongly for what ever reason it is that they are not going to be there to support you then you need to focus on starting your life with your husband. The wedding day goes by quick, the marriage is a life time. Hopefully your family will come around after you are married. Remember this, your dad is married to your step mom He as to live with her.
It's not fair in this case but, if she is the cause of you dad & sister not going be glad she is not controling your life as well. Best wishes on a healthy and happy life
2007-02-20 01:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Kat G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look getting married is one of the most exciting days of your life. Your hopefully only do it once so just enjoy it and all the people that really care for you will be there. Your family will really regret this one day, i personally think its really selfish of them to try and ruin this for you but i think you should hold your head high and enjoy every minute. Your family are making a big mistake and it must be heart breaking, i know i would have been devasted but they cant control you and who you love so you do what you have to do! At the end of the day its about you and your fiance makeing a special bond to each other so who cares who else is there as long as the man you love is standing in front of you - hes your future and family! Good Luck
2007-02-19 03:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry that your family is responding this way to your marriage. I think it is lovely that your future father-in-law has agreed to walk you down they aisle and give you away.
Hopefully they will come to terms with things and you can regain the support you should have in the future. Do try to keep in contact with them despite the hurt. They probably feel they are doing what is right, but sometimes people just don't look at the bigger picture.
2007-02-12 08:26:33 · answer #4 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you are going through. The only family that will be at my wedding is my brother and sister. My brother has to walk me down! My family problem has a large part to do with my step mom as well. I haven't spoken to my dad for a year and a half. It'll be two years Thanksgiving. I try calling him but he won't ever return my calls. Of course with people like we have its best to just forget. Its your day. Not theirs. Don't let them ruin it for you. If they don't want to go or won't return your calls thats their loss. You don't want to start a new life with people like that hanging over you. The problem with family like that is that they think they are doing what's best but in all actuality its just they're too darn stubborn. You don't want people like that at your wedding anyway. Who knows they'll probably cause a scene(ecspecially if they are anything like my family). Oh and by the way I'm 19 and my man is 29. So I can't judge you.
2007-02-20 03:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by sweetpea_2232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 days huh? Wow, you must be getting all the butterflies!! I can't wait till I get to that point! Well as for your family, that is absolutely terrible! I am so sorry to hear that, what an absolute disregard for you and your feelings on what is supposed to be the biggest, happiest day of your life. Honestly if they don't want to go, then so be it. They will regret it in the long run. Send them some pictures and tell them gracefully that you were really sorry they couldn't be there. Good luck honey, and Congratulations! Wow you have come a long way!
2007-02-12 09:17:07 · answer #6 · answered by Me, again 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them go their way, they'll regret it in the end when your dad realizes he didn't walk his daughter down the aisle on this her wedding day. Maybe right now he's mad (for whatever reason) and mad people don't look into the future, whenever he realizes he missed out on the most important day of your life it'll come back to haunt him. Imagine when you have children and they ask why grandpa is not in the wedding pictures? It'll come back to haunt him, enjoy your day and congratulations!
2007-02-12 08:09:59 · answer #7 · answered by I MISS YOU! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congradulations on your upcoming wedding. Of coarse you should be hurt that your family members are not coming to your wedding!!!! Sometimes people don't always handle situations well. As long as your groom shows up you'll be just fine though. Good luck and don't let anyone ruin your day!
2007-02-12 08:34:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations!!! Yes you have every right to be mad & hurt...but it is your wedding day, don't let their actions ruin it for you. Choose to be happy & look at all the positive that your wedding day brings. Make the most of it. I loved getting married.
Don't focus on them, they will have to live with the choices they are making.
2007-02-12 08:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by shouldbworkn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world could that step mom have said to make everyone not want to come?
Of course you're right to be upset, but don't be too upset. You've found a man and a family who do love and support you. Let your family go their way, and you go yours.
2007-02-12 08:22:11 · answer #10 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋