My friends think I am too picky. I am divorced and have been for 3.5 years after a 5 year marriage. I wont settle for looks nor personality! Am I wrong for knowing what I like and want out of life? I have had one major girlfriend and many one date wonders(not encounters.) One friend of mine says a woman will only last with me 7-10 days due to me finding something wrong with them. Answers?
2007-02-12 07:59:01 · 9 answers · asked by flyerscapt 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No--you are not wrong for maintaining a high standard--the problem is--when you are so set as to what that standard is--you are probably limiting yourslef--yes--you want someone you are both attracted to physically and mentally, right?...But a lot of people could actually fit into those categories--it is all perception--if you have it in your mind that someone attractive looks like such and such--and needs to act like so-and so in order to meet some pre-established standard--you are probably blocking opportunities to meet your next partner--instead of focusing on the FORM of your next partner--focus on the FEELING you want to have in your next relationship--don't get hung up on trying to screen people out so quickly--if you think you already know exactly how your next partner should look and act--well--you are not being open--After all--it didn't work out for you the first time right?...So stay open--think about how you want to FEEL and BE in your relationship--and yes-you can think--yeah--I'd like to be attracted to my new partner on all levels--but don't focus on the form they may come in--the Universe may offer you a surprise--it may be trying to do thisbut you are not receptive to it...Stay positive and open and you may surprise yourself...
Good Luck
2007-02-12 08:07:08 · answer #1 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one should ever settle, its a mistake. The only problem would be if you go into every situation looking for something negative about that person.
2007-02-12 16:08:10 · answer #2 · answered by Jen_n_TX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not wrong for knowing what you want out of life and its good to know that you refused to settle for anything less-especially when it comes to dating! You have every right to be picky and I applaud you for doing something so good for yourself! Besides, you shouldn't care about what your friends think, because what do they know?
2007-02-12 16:04:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you trying to sabotage your own relationships? If so, admit it. That's entirely different than feeling you are "forced" into a relationship. One nighters do NOT count as a relationship, by the way!
And at the same time, you do not have to settle for anyone. The choices are all yours.
2007-02-12 16:05:55 · answer #4 · answered by domesticgoddess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya gotta do what ya gotta do... if it doesn't feel right, then there's no reason to commit. Just be careful that you don't find yourself somewhere down the road wishing you could have accepted a couple of human flaws, rather than holding out for unattainable perfection...
2007-02-12 16:05:35 · answer #5 · answered by selena n 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go with what you want in life, if you cant go and be true to what your heat tells you, then you wont be happy with yourself or the choices you make.
I think your friend, I assume he was being sarcastic with that remark, should be more supportive if he is that keen to your relationships.
2007-02-12 16:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no good excuse for this. Why would you settle for something substandard when it's easier to just give up?
2007-02-12 17:45:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your too focused on the negative qualities in the women you are with, if you wanna find someone... put there imperfections aside for a moment and really get to know her before you break it off.
2007-02-12 16:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Velvet_heart 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
they shouldnt they should wait until they know that they are the one
2007-02-12 16:02:30 · answer #9 · answered by in_L-O-V-E_w/daniel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋