For the women, which is more important, personality or looks and what he has?why?

Question

i mean, what are women really looking for? I always hear that they want this and that, but they alway go for the guy who most likely would sell them down the river. example. there was this girl who wanted all the qualities my cousin Nicky had, so I set up a date for the two of them, not to mention that I paid for(enough about me....lol), when she met him, she immediately left. Later on, she ended up dating my co worker and he treated her like a steak thrown to the wolves. I under physical attraction is important, but how many times in one's life are you (general you ) going to find the pot of gold with the gold in it still?...I am sorry Nicky, she dont know what she could have had.

Answer 1

For women what's important is
1) guy should be interesting , be yourself , if you spill something don't make a big deal , just be normal
2) don't pay too much attention , flirt with other girls
3)should be good at there work , we like guys who take there jobs seriously
4) be honest
5)and if you are not handsome then dress well , carry yourself well
that's it any girl will fall for you

Answer 2

I'm noticing a lot of girls are stating they want the brains and the rest whatever.....But in reality, and this includes guys too, they're going for superficial things. I understand that physical attraction is the first thing that happens when you see someone down the street. But in your case, as is most cases, physical attraction had to come second, maybe even later, since you told the girl about Nicky. They base a lot of how a person looks as to whether they'll hook up or not and it's sad but that's reality. Not to sound mean but you need to grasp that as well. Just because they always say hey I want you know more upstairs then anything else, don't buy it. ALSO different strokes for different folks. Mel Gibson has many female fans who'd die to get near him. I, on the other hand, would die if I got near him. So just because the girl didn't find Nicky attractive doesn't make her a bad person. Just didn't float her boat. Sorry

Answer 3

If u want the scientific answer- its all of the above. Females of all primate species are genetically designed to seek out males who can provide a stable environment AND one who can pass on the most favorable genes- problem is, these arent always the same male.

The unscientific answer is- and I believe this has been repeated at least 1M times- what women say and what they do are 2 different things. Stable men often are too nice and respectful- which is a sexual turnoff for many women. Like all of the species, many like an exciting challenge, which unstable but good-looking men provide.

That said, if this girl likes being treated like dirt though- shes probably a low self-esteemer with some daddy issues. Tell ur cousin to grow a pair- meaning confidence and attitude- and the women will come looking for him.

Answer 4

Personality is far more important to me than anything else. Yes, I should be attracted to him, but truthfully I don't usually find myself attracted to the typical "hotties." Sure they're nice to look at, but I haven't found any to be boyfriend material in my eyes. It boils down to me wanting a guy who will trust me, treat me with respect, like me for who I am, have a good sense of humor, etc as I will be for him. I don't think those qualities are too much to ask for, but apparently it must be so since I am 17 and never had a boyfriend.