2007-02-12 07:53:41 · 32 answers · asked by simply_ch0c0late 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No. It's the mindset of a cheater; "I've done it once, I can get away with it again." A little spot of boredom, a rough patch in the relationship, and they are immediately going to resort to what they know best.
It's easy, when you're the outside party in an affair, to blame the spouse. I have a friend who, at nineteen, became involved with her married 40-something employer.
They all have the same lines. The spouse doesn't understand them, they're not in love anymore, they're staying together for the kids, etc., etc.
Eventually she found out that The Spouse was Wife #2 and was the mistress this guy had kept while married to Wife #1. This little fact was enough to make her realize that the problem was not either spouse, it was the cheating louse of a man who couldn't resist his 20-something employees (Wife #2 had held my friend's job back in the day).
You just have to remember, though--that spouse was probably you once upon a time. Cheating isn't an isolated incident--most offenders end up doing it again.
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2016-09-29 00:39:30 · answer #2 · answered by elzey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The part about being the "other" woman or man isn't even relevent. The harsh reality is this: No one can trust anyone. Everybody cheats. Its human nature. Not literally everyone, but the % is very, very, very high. Some people get caught and some don't.
2007-02-12 08:17:22 · answer #3 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
signs point to no.
if they came to you a changed man after much reflection and opportunity to decide to change their ways then that's a better sign that they are ready for real commitment. If however, they went from one woman to the next (being you) I'd tend to believe that they believe the same things about commitment that they did in the first relationship. They'll keep looking for the nest best thing. Today that's you, tomorrow that's some other chick.
2007-02-12 08:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by imnotachickenyoureaturkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know everyone says you can't, especially Dr. Phil, but I really think it depends on the circumstances. There can't be an absolute for any relationship. All people are different and circumstances will be as well. I'm not endorsing cheating, I'm only saying that maybe sometimes that might be a once in a lifetime thing that happens.
2007-02-12 07:59:56 · answer #5 · answered by Chiv 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you ever trust a person to be faithful. End of question.
No. However, certainly if they were unfaithful once, it would
indicate that they might be again.
You have to ask yourself, however, what they were unfaithful to.
If their former lover turned into a homicidal maniac, there may
be good reason to break the old vows.
Have you met this person? Would YOU have stayed with them?
2007-02-12 07:57:41 · answer #6 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really hard to do I was just dealing with a similar issue. I was the other woman for a few years then we decided to just be together and then he cheated so it just depends on the man that you are dealing with. Because some men really do change it just depends on what they want in life.
2007-02-12 07:58:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
still have left a man/ women that u can truly trust them especially if they love each other much.. they really do till death do us part.a cheater can be chance if they knowthey want him /her. they really do to be good in future.if u dont trust to someone u always think negative for them so trust her/him to get her/hes faithful
2007-02-12 08:05:57 · answer #8 · answered by lene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't work that way, Sweetie. If you went in as the "other", then you started off on the wrong foot. It's only a matter of time. I would cut your losses, Hon', and move on.
Best never to start a relationship as the "other", it NEVER works out well.
Good luck.
2007-02-12 08:02:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can you TRULY trust...Absolutely not!
It's hard enough to trust another person, but with the factor you named above, it's almost impossible because you know the person is not only CAPABLE of infidelity, but has actually committed it.
2007-02-12 07:56:21 · answer #10 · answered by Oh Suhnny Day 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋