So I just got out of a 2 yr relationship. Now I'm dating this guy and I've known him for about 5 months now. I kinda liked him before but it wasnt anything serious since I had a bf. Now that I dont, we talk more and we've hung out a few times. Now I find myself liking him more which is upsetting me because I told myself after i got out of my 2 yr relationship that I didnt want anything serious with anyone. I just want to hang out. This guy is super sweet and funny and not usually the type of guy I'm use to dating. In the past I've dated a lot of thuggish guys and I usually know how to act around them. This guy is SO not like that and its different and weird for me but I like it. I feel like this is going to end up being bad for me though cause I know hes dating some other chick and I dont know where he stands with her. I dont want to stop talking to him but I dont think it would be wise to get in too deep before its too late. I dont want anymore heart ache.
2007-02-12 07:52:50 · 3 answers · asked by TheLight 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
How do I cool myself down from liking him? I dont know why it gets so weird for me when I talk to him. I'm usually pretty out going and I dont get shy much but with him I get SO shy and sometimes I get so nervous I dont know how to act. Lol, I feel like a little kid but I'm 21!
2007-02-12 07:55:01 · update #1
Sounds like you need space and time. And I actually think the fact that he's seeing someone will help that. I think you should have a heart-to-hear with him. Try to figure out how you BOTH feel. If it's mutual attraction tell him you wan to take it SLOW. And if he continues to date the other girl in the meantime, tell him to be honest and open about how that relationship is going. If it progresses he should tell you ASAP. Similarly, if you start dating other as well, you should let him know too.
I think it is entirely possible to keep a relationship casual as long as everyone knows and plays by the same rules.
Good luck.
2007-02-12 07:59:14 · answer #1 · answered by doggiemom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he's dating another chick kinda tells me that he
doesn't want to stick with one girl. If you don't feel comfortable
about that, you are smart not to get deeply involved with him.
Wait and see. Keep him as just a friend. It's safer that way.
2007-02-12 08:01:10 · answer #2 · answered by Suzie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are "smitten". Be careful, especially since you are aware of his other attachments. You need to discover the depth of his relationship and feelings for this other lady. If she is just a casual dating friend...you can move forward. BE SURE before you extend your feelings. You might get them chopped off.
2007-02-12 08:01:05 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋