Do you feel like no matter how hard you try, you cannot make your teenager happy, and nothing you do is right? I just want to know if this is normal? Do you always argue with your teenager about everything?
2007-02-12 07:50:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Sorry to say but yes at this point its the age I have a 17 year old daugher and I really try to be nice, try to talk lol, and then she just blows up and it turns into an argument about everything.... so when this happens I just calmly say when you can talk in a decent tone we will talk until then I have nothing to say.... Ive seen this with sister in law and her daughter, my sister and her girls and it does get better with time because they grow up so its just wait and get through the best way you know will benefit them in the end....
2007-02-12 13:53:53 · answer #1 · answered by Renee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i was a teen ager just a few years ago living with my parent. I am girl and have two sisters. one was at college the other live with me till she went to college. But for the two years with my eldest sister left it was hell. then it got better, bit i still fought with my sister. Teenage girls want to fit in most off, they wannt do waht their friends are doing. If you dont let her she will all ways be mad. I always belamed my mom for everything, we faught all the time and i even told her i hated her several times. WE FAUGHT ABOUT EVERYTHING. MY mother did not always talk the time to listem to me. I felt like if i talked to her she would use it against me. I always wanted my mom to stop yelling and just talk, It also depenened on the way my mother aproached me on any topic. If she come on full force, then a fight was all ways coming. I wouls say that the best way to reach out to her is ask her wat she wants and what she really wants. Then try to make it fair for the both of you, how old is you daughter, does she have a boyfriend, Is she wanting to have sex? Cuz when i had my first realy boy friend, that was when i faught the most with her, i wanted to be with him and i felt embarased to talk to her, we never got along so i figured this was way not coll to talk to her about. Then one day, i think it was after i talked to my sister. She said i am putting you on the pill, the fight stoped some what as i felt i could be like an adult. I started to open up to her. I have no children but am trying to conceve. have been trying for a year and am waiting. I just wanted to tell you why i faught so much with my mother about everything. again the age and grade and if she has a boy friend is important. post something for me or send me an email
by the way i am now 24 am am living with that boy from my storie. He was my best friend and now we are planing to start a family.
hope something helped
2007-02-12 16:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by waitingandwantiing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This quotation was once attributed (incorrectly) to Mark Twain, but just might fit in with how you are feeling:
"When I was a boy of fourteen, my father was so ignorant I could hardly stand to have the old man around. But when I got to be twenty-one, I was astonished at how much the old man had learned in seven years"
It is a relief to know that we all keep learning, even as we approach our mid-life, our children will teach us how to become the best parents we can be.
2007-02-12 16:08:46 · answer #3 · answered by rob c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not let the highs and lows get to me or even over react to them...I do ask is everthing ok...I COULD argue with my kids about everything, I just choose not to....I do not pick at them either...when we are together I try really hard to just relate, talk and enjoy them and if I have a ***** I call a meetig and address it
2007-02-12 16:03:36 · answer #4 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just before Christmas my step daughter clung onto her mum at every opportunity. Her mum was her best friend and she never left home to see friends after school or at weekends. That all changed over xmas. We got an $86 phone bill and now she goes out allo the time, on sleepovers etc. She tells us a pack of lies and has a boyfriend. It was quite an immediate change. The other one, my step-son is 13 and has ADHD so has an attitude like you wouldn't imagine. Threatens to hysically harm his 4 year old brother, yet plays with him like he was 4 himself. Wets the bed, lies about things other people say or do to him, hurts the dogs etc etc etc. Neither of them are a bundle of laughs! Sometimes either of them will stand in front of their mum (because they won't get anywhere with me) and repeat I'm bored, I'm bored I'm bored over and over until she breaks and shouts at them
2007-02-12 16:04:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'M NOT A PARENT OF A TEENAGER BUT I'M 18 AND I WAS LIKE THAT WHEN I WAS YOUNG ME AND MY MOTHER NEVER GOT ALONG SHE THOUGHT ITS WAS A STAGE I WAS GOING THROUGH BUT REALLY I FOUNT OUT I WAS
BI POLAR AND THATS PART OF IT NEVER BEING STATISFIED I NEVER ACCEPTED ANYTHING CORRECTLY BUT NOW THAT I'M OLDER I REALIZE YOU GIVE RESPECT TO RECIEVE RESPECT I WAS RAISED RIGHT JUST HAD A HARD TIME COPING BUT I'M SURE YOUR DAUGHTER \ SON LOVES YOU SOMETIMES ITS HARD TO SHOW ME AND MY MOTHER DONT TALK NO MORE I MOVED OUT AND HAVE MY OWN LIFE NOW BUT AT NIGHT I CRY CAUSE I LOVE HERSOME TIMES I JUST WANT TO HUG HER SO MUCH AND WISH I WOULD HAVE JUST ACCEPTED EVERYTHING SHE EVER GAVE ME WITH OPEN ARMS YOUR ONLY GIVING ONE MOTHER YOU SHOULD CHERISH THAT WOMEN AND I DO BUT I COULDNT SAY ITS NORMAL BUT YOUR CHILDS A TEENAGER WE ARE ALL LIKE ODD OBJECTS VERY DIFFICUIT TO FIGURE OUT BUT I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT FOR YOU AND GOD BLESS ~*KALA*~
2007-02-12 16:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋