my boyfriend of 1yr and a half doesnt want to celebrate valentines day i mentioned that valentines was coming up and he started saying ugh! i hate valentines its so stupid! it kinda made me feel bad but i didnt say anything about it i kinda just brushed it to the side. i know valentines day is kinda cheesy but now that its coming closer and knowing were not doing anything i feel like maybe i should say something, i mean im not expecting anything juts a small dinner that even IM willing to cook would be fine...ugh! i dont know what to do or say!
2007-02-12 07:34:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hello,
I am in the same boat as your BF... I hate Vday, I think it's so stupid because it's just a way for retailers to make more money... do I really need A DAY to get roses, some gifts, and chocolate? I personaly prefer it much more when my BF does these things out side of an inforced ocassion... that means a lot more to me than if it's done on Vday... but anyway, enough about my opinion...i know that there are many ppl that look forward to Vday and there's nothing wrong with that.. just tell him how you're not expecting much but it doesn't have to be black or white... the grey area in between to keep both sides happy will be a small dinner, so this way since Vday means a lot to you you get to have your night with your bf, and since he hates it, he doesn't have to go all out to impress you or make a bold statement... it's just a dinner!
2007-02-12 07:45:14 · answer #1 · answered by Shelley S 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy has you beat. Valentines Day is for girls. Guys don't like celebrating it. However, he should know it is for you and do something minor. Chances are "He's just not that into you".
If he has ever had a long relationship before, he would know what to do. Flowers and dessert is a simple thing to do the dummy.
If he isn't that into you don't be hurt, chances are that you are everything that his is looking for you've just been too much of a pushover. He will take this to the point where he will lose respect for you and eventually move on.
It's time for you to start going out with your friends. Maybe even get guys phone numbers and sit on them until things start going better. Chances are your boyfriend will come around if you start becoming that available cute chick that he chased in the beginning.
I suggest buying the book called "He's Just Not That Into You" ( http://www.amazon.com/gp/search?ie=UTF8&keywords=He%27s%20just%20not%20that%20into%20you&tag=thinkbling-20&index=books&linkCode=ur2&camp=1789&creative=9325 ). Leave that out where he can find it and see what he has to say. If he doesn't say anything, he's looking to end the relationship but is to weak to actually do it himself.
2007-02-12 15:48:35 · answer #2 · answered by Geiger 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well did you guys celebrate it last year since you've been together so long? If you guys have been going out for a year and a half you should be able to talk about it. Say that just being with him is fine nothing special.
2007-02-12 15:40:37 · answer #3 · answered by Je vous aime. ♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is a special day for couples but don't let it get to u it's not that big of a deal just spend time with him don't worry too much about one day.
2007-02-12 15:44:05 · answer #4 · answered by mrs. MJ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make the suckah celebrate it. Valentines day is supposed to be fun.
2007-02-12 15:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Big C 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Don't make him anything. He won't appreciate it.
2007-02-12 15:39:53 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous_xx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Then don't celebrate it.
2007-02-12 15:37:45 · answer #7 · answered by Dusty 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋