They treat high school boyfriends and girlfriends like they OWN them!
As the mother of teenage girls the violence I've heard about is alarming!
I think I have raised MINE to understand the difference between dating and actually being MARRIED, but I'm sure I'm not the first parent to think so.
2007-02-12 07:28:26 · 15 answers · asked by Renee D 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think because families are more disjointed now than ever (Many don't even eat meals together!) kids are looking for love and family and they mistakenly think they've found it in a boyfriend or girlfriend. Also the reason why so many young girls begin having sex so young and often before they really want to. They feel they have to please their bf or they'll lose him. Having made him their family (at least in their heads) this feels to scary so they give in. It's very unfortunate for the girls AND the guys. This sort of thing will color how they view themselves and future relationships for a long time.
2007-02-12 13:55:02 · answer #1 · answered by MissWong 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either you are making an extreme generalization or I'm just the oddball out. I'm a teenager and I wouldn't want to pretend like I was married with any boyfriend. Marriage or just dating I would never act like I owned him nor would I like him act like or think he owned me. A relationship should be about mutually caring for one another, not having dominance. I've been in one abusive relationship, which ended quickly, and from that I've learned that yes having a boyfriend is nice, but it's not worth killing my emotions. I'm not going to waste my time with a guy that I know will hurt me. I'm fine being independent, but I would not object if I met a good guy.
2007-02-12 07:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by Green-eyed Nikki 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It has to do with self esteem and parental role. Most parents do not have serious conversations with their teens on many subjects because they are blind or want to be blind to reality. The other factor is self esteem - especially teenage girls. Teenage girls are bombarded with so much hype about how to look, behave, dress, keeping their men, etc. from many magazines and such. They are told to be so many things at one time and to always please their men. This is why so many teen girls end up being in abusive relationships.
The best way to get teenagers to understand how life works is to have serious and open conversations. If we take out the hype and the fiction from the facts, we arm the teens with the best tools to deal with life.
2007-02-12 07:37:37 · answer #3 · answered by Michael K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm in the tattoo business and I see it all the time. One guy got really mad at his girlfriend because she didn't get her tattoo in the business he wanted her to. She came in crying over it. They've seen way too much TV and they have been shielded by this no spanking crap the government lays out. They haven't been disciplined correctly as children. I've also seen children stand up to their parents when the parent is 100% right. It's a sad time we live in these days.
I raised mine like you have your kids. As long as we did it the right way, there's hope.
2007-02-12 07:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is 14 and not allowed to date because of what you stated and other reasons, age being the biggest. I understand totally. Hopefully she won't be one of these new age girls either. I hope I have raised her to be independent and secure enough to not be possessive like some of the newer generation of kids.
2007-02-12 07:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by justme 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
im not a parent and am only 20 and i say the same thing!! my current bf and his ex went to hs together.i found a note she wrote him when they were going out saying how she wanted him to act like they were married and not just dating...i think its kinda creapy!! and i get sooo annoyed when kids in hs say how they "love" the first guy or girl that comes into their life...how can u possibly know what love is when you havent even gone through puberty yet?? have your heart broken a few times...then you will know what love truely is!
2007-02-12 07:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by kim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're like small animals looking for their prey, they grow with envy, desire and jealousy, how could it be different ?
Maybe the education's system is not good at all, but they also prefer learning from friends than from parents or other adults and you might not be the one teaching them bad things...
2007-02-12 07:34:26 · answer #7 · answered by bemanni 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think society has bred this into them. TV, advertisements, news, etc. You see teenage boys that are so demanding and domineering and possessive. Its truly scary! Having a good stable home and good values is the answer, teaching our kids what is right and wrong...and hoping they will listen to us!
2007-02-12 07:36:54 · answer #8 · answered by HowdyThere 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Kids imitate what they see everywhere, on tv, at school and in the real world. It is great that you are teaching your daughter that people are not to be owned but respected.
2007-02-12 07:34:38 · answer #9 · answered by kewlkatty00 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Teens emulate what is on the television shows and the lyrics on music. There's low social value nowadays.
2007-02-12 07:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by Coyote 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋