help please my son is 3 yr old and refuses to use the potty or toilet! what can i do to get him to use either?

Answer 1

I HAVE THE ANSWER!!!!
My son will be 3 in March. I have been trying off and on to potty train him since last April. He wasn't ready so I put it off for a while but my husband and I have been getting tired of changing dirty pull-ups so i've decided to give it another try. I CRACKED THE CODE! It finaly worked, I just had to wait for him and myself to be ready.
Pick a week when you don't have to go anywhere, STAY HOME! It will take that long cause your son needs to figure out the sensation. My son doesn't tell me he needs to go, I put him on the potty and tell him to wait for the pee pee to come out.
My son is like any other boy who likes cartoons so I put his portable potty on a towel in front of the tv and put on a video.
(I used a towel under the potty for spills, I had to change it just about everytime he went. Alot of laundry that week)

He watches alot of videos that week. But it was all worth it cause know he goes by himself. I still ask him every once in a while if he needs to go but he say's no everytime even if he needs to go. He sat and watched his video and peed in the potty. When he would get up and I knew that he wasn't done peeing I would tell him to sit on the potty and sometimes he said no and i would turn off th tv and then he sat back down on the potty so i would turn the tv back on. When he did go pee I went over board with happyness. We sang the potty song "Russel went pee pee on the potty, Russel went pee pee on the potty Horray!!!!" and we danced. He was so happy to see me happy that he wanted me to be happy again and again. I found that the same routine worked.
be prepared to have accidents but don't punish him for it just say "did you have an accident? Thats ok go sit on the potty and see if there's anymore pee pee that needs to come out."
OUR ROUTINE:
Pee pee on the potty
Then he got 2 chocolate chips and we dumped the pee in the BIG potty and he gets to flush the toilet and say's "bye bye pee pee" and washed our hands. then he got a sticker for washing his hands.

2 chocolated chips for pee
6 chocolate chips and a lolly pop for poo (cause it's special)
1 sticker for washing his hands.

After the first week he got board with the chocolate chip so I had to find a new reward. He gets gummy worms. and Chocolate brownie for poo's and a balloon cause it's rare that he'll go poo on the potty so we make it extra special.

The first couple of days give him alot of juice and milk, everytime he's finished his cup fill it up again. I did this with my son and he had to pee every 20min. That means the more he pee's the more times he get's that sensation and figures it out. I bought a timer at the dollar store to remind me it's been 20min and make sure he was sitting on the potty. I gave him alot for attention that week, lots of hugs and kiss and I told him "mommy is so happy, you make mommy so happy when you go pee on the potty, i'm so proud of you!" "Your a big boy now that you go pee on the potty" and we would call his aunt and tell her over the phone and she would respond with pure excitment. That made him happy!
I noticed the only time he would have an accident was when I wasn't paying attention to him!
My son was going pee by himself after the 6th day but don't get me wrong he still had many accidents but its a work in progress, and we are still working on going poo. And he wears a pull-up at night.
By the way we are on day 22. After about two weeks we decided to start using the BIG potty and it works. He goes by himself now and then wants us to come look at the pee so that we can reward him. He's so proud!
I hope this helps. A friend of mine used mini brownies as a treat and her son was trained in 2 days. I wish!!! but you never know it might work for you!
best of luck!!!

Answer 2

Don't worry. My son was 4 years old when he finally started to go pee-pee in the toilet. Getting him to do his other business took a couple more months. Just constantly ask him if he has to go potty. Even sit him on there a couple of times a day. When he does go remember to make a HUGH deal out of it. Jump up and down, sing a potty song, call the family and let him tell them, you can even buy him a gift. Just make sure its something inexpensive because you might have to do it a few times. I used to get my son stickers when he went potty. The first time he went #2 dad and I bought him a toy car that had lights that worked. Be patient. It takes time just always tell him that when he finally goes he will get a prize. That always got my son excited about going potty.

Good Luck!!

Answer 3

What do you mean he REFUSES to use the potty or toilet! Who's in charge. At 3 years old, he is able to understand what's expected. Take away the diapers and use a little bit of tough love...Use some of the tricks offered in these "answers". I used a "magic marking board". I attached it to the bathroom wall behind the door. When they peed, they got to make a mark on the board. When they pooped they got to make 2 marks on the board. This might not sound like a HUGE deal, but my boys were very proud when they could use the magic ink pen and make a mark on that board....No expensive gifts, no real bribes, just a sense of pride in what they accomplished. Both my boys were trained by the time they were three.

Answer 4

Are you saying he will also not poop into a toilet? If so, just make sure you don't put a nappy on for convenience. My sister in law did that because her daughter wouldn't poop into a toilet either.. then allowed her to wear a nappy for the business. This continued until recently.. she is turning 5 soon. Buy him some really cool undies of his choice, then explain that if he poops into them they will be stained. He won't want to wear stained undies so very quickly they learn to use the potty or toilet instead, by choice. Many children don't like to poop into potties though.. to put it bluntly, sometimes the poo hits the bottom whilst still attached and coming.. this feeling can be very offputting to some children. It's different to wearing a nappy.. Make sure there is no problem with his rectal muscles as well.. and that he can indeed poop on demand. Hang in there.. he'll get it. He's still in normal training age!

Answer 5

First and formost , don't panic. Every child picks this up at their own pace, so if your comparing your 3 yr old to someone elses or an average in a book stop. You'll end up creating problems by pushing to hard. Just take it easy , look for signs from your child that they're ready , an acknowledgement of having to go to the bathroom. most of all make them comfortable with the toilet, every half hour or so take them in to sit for a bit , but don't force them to stay or cry . The toilet has to be an ok , safe , happy place. Again , one of my children potty trained at 21/2 yrs old. One right before kindergarten...Same house same methods....when theyre ready they will so again don't stress about it.

Answer 6

I don't know how to potty train a boy, but we tried to potty train my daughter when she turned two. We tried treats, a sticker calendar, everything. Nothing worked. When she was about 2 years and 8 months, we decided to let her run around the house without any diaper or panties on. She had two accidents, and after a week, we put underwear on her, and she potty-trained jsut like that. She will be three in a month and only has accidents at night.

Answer 7

My son is 3 years and 3 months. He was never interested in it before and I didnt want to rush him into anything. I have 2 older boys that were both trained early and I just felt I shouldnt rush my 3rd. I just started to train him this week though and he is already completely trained. The first day seemed hopeless. I bought him cartoon character undies and he was acting like he was having fun peeing in them. IT was frustrating and I didnt think it would work and wanted to just give up, but I didnt. I went and bought some stickers and some fruit juice popsicles. I put a piece of contruction paper up and again , he didnt act like he cared. I finally gave myself a sticker after I went to the bathroom and he realized he wanted that too. So I used stickers and popsicles to help.I also set a timer for every 30 minutes and told him when that went off it was potty time. He would jump up and run to the toilet every time it went off. I still put pull ups on him at night time. Its been a week and anytime we go out his pull ups stay dry and everymorning when he wakes up his pull ups are dry. Its great. He has only had one accident in the past 3 days. If you just keep it up and prepare to sit with him in the bathroom for a while at a time, it will all work out. Dont let it frustrate you. It will happen.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

Take him to Wal-Mart and let him pick out one toy, tell him he can have it when he reguraly goes the potty like a big boy. I know it is bribng but it works, also every time he uses the restroom give him a sticker or a stamp on his hand. All of these things make toddlers excited about using the big kid potty! Good Luck.

Answer 10

Try taking him to the toilet time to time, tell him he should do it like mommy and daddy, if he is doing it purposely then tell him that mommy and daddy don't do it like that then y is he doing it. u have time and take him to the toilet urself, maybe for the 1st 2 weeks u will have to adjust with this then teach him to say to u when he has to go, and then u see it will be very easy from then on. in future if u r planning to have more babies try to potty train from an early age , it will be more easier that way.

Answer 11

Have you tried the Cheerio's Game?

Drop cheerio's into the toilet. Tell your son to take his hose, aim and sink all the buoys.

Everytime he goes potty on the toilet, reward him with a cookie/toy.