Why is he doing this?

Question

I broke it off with this guy because he was totally playing me. A month had gone by and I didn't hear from him, then he starts calling me again, mainly in the middle of the night after he has been out drinking, but sometimes he calls me when he is at work to say "Hi". This past weekend he called 5 times in the middle of the night and leaves messages that he wants to see me and that he still loves me. I didn't answer my phone. I texted him the next day and asked him why is he doing this and he says "honestly, when I drink, it makes me think of the good times we had and it makes me want to call you. that's all". I felt crushed and responded "i figured that was the case and new you really didn't mean anything by it". All this is doing to me is making me think he still cares and wants me back (yeah right). It is really messing with my emotions. I feel like I am having to get over him all over again, when I was doing just fine until he started calling me again. Why is he doing this?

Answer 1

First off, Alcohol is a depressant! lol You said he was playing you, and you dumped him. So this probably hasnt happened to him that much, and your the one that sticks out in his mind. the one he could keep! No matter what there is pretty much no way for him to be honest and faithful. He's the type that wants everything, but doesnt appreciate anything! Your best bet is to change your number, or go in your cell phone settings and in your privacy part (which will require a preset factory password to get into) go to restrict calls, and put his number in there. So everytime he calls it goes straight to VM and your phone does'nt ring. Goodluck with whatever you do, but remember.........once a cheater always a cheater!

Answer 2

It's because he's a drunk. He wasn't ever any good for you; not then and certainly not now. Drinking only makes his crass behavior worse and makes him look more of a fool to use that as an excuse. You know very well were he's coming from and what he's all about so don't even think he even remotely cares about you. He's a low down worm, a sot, who's only concern is about himself. Honestly, you know that you can do much better than him and to entertain the idea of thinking he has feelings for you is totally absurd. He's no good for you and he's no good for anyone. He's his own worst enemy who can't control himself. Getting involved with a drunk is the most self destructive action anyone could possibly do. Nothing good ever comes from it and you can count on a life filled with misery and unending grief. But you know this already just by how this idiot has been acting. If he keeps this up contact the authorities and have him charged with harassment. Swear out a restraining order against him if you need to. Calling you five times in one night at these off hours is more than enough for you to make a valid charge against him. So tell him either by choice or by force he is never to bother you again. You want him out of your life and you want him to stay out of your life, now and forevermore! In the meantime stop letting him get to you. Get your emotions back in check and realize once and for all that you are going to be finally rid of this creep.

Answer 3

Can you honestly say you have time to deal with someone like that? Life is too short to put up with people that don't play fair. The reason he is calling you is because he is lonely (for the moment), and he thinks you are the person that he can go to to get what he wants. I know this almost certainly for a fact, as I have been in both shoes before. The best advice I can give you is to tell him off every time he calls you. He will eventually give up, and move on to some other unsuspecting person. Men's behavior is very predictable, because we all follow a pattern. If this guy is trying to take advantage of you he will not stop until you make it clear that you won't let him any more.

Go find yourself a decent guy, and be done with that looser.

Answer 4

Look if he's doing this it pretty much means he wants you back but he wants other girls too tell him to stop calling you unless you want him back and he wants you back .there are plenty of fish in the sea obviously he's not a good catch go out and find the right one and if you feel like you should stop dating for a while that's totally ok if he calls and he's drunk hang up and if you start to cry think about the bad times not the good one's that way you'll realize he was horrible for you and you'll find a great guy soon i promise you

Answer 5

He's doing it because he is drunk. He messed up and you might be the first girl to call him on his behavior and now he is trying to come to terms with it by playing more games.. he gets you interested and then dumps you... see what I mean? You need to tell him that you do not appreciate him playing with your emotions and to stop calling you. If he doesn't, you will need to change your number at home and no longer take his calls at work. You deseve a good man who knows how to treat a lady, not play like a little boy.....

Answer 6

He calls you in the middle of the night after he is drunk because he didn't pick someone up at the bar and is horny. So, he figures he can call you and you will be desperate enough to put out for him. Sorry to be harsh but it is true, I can guarantee it. Don't even talk to this guy, he sounds like a total piece of ****! If he was so interested in you still wouldn't he apologize for messing up in the first place and want to take you out in the evening when he is sober instead of calling you in the middle of the night pissed out of his mind?

Answer 7

He sounds like his mommy won't let him date you. You know, often there are issues in a maternal relationship that generate anxiety amongst teenage boys especially when they drive their dad's '88 monte carlo along the strip mall where their dad's favorite Chess King store used to be before they tore it up and put in a homo-erotic book store against the DMV where I used to see all kinds of wierd behavior when I worked across the way at the Hardees which was the place I lost my virginity will Jill whom I recently learned had plucked out four, count them four, childrens to four different men some as old as twice as old as her and one that was alsmost half her age which makes the whole idea quite disturbing, but then again what do I know.

Answer 8

gee, that sounds familur!!! Cuz he is a total loser and only thinks of you when there are no other women around or even his guy friends for that matter!!!
When someone else is around he wont be doing that! I only know because the same b/s happend to me and I never replyed back and at night I even turned my phone off so I didn't have to hear it ring or beep when I got a text.
Just leave it alone, you're better off, how could he say that to you?? That's so childish and imature! He is totaly toying with your emotions and I wouldn't fall for it one bit! Tell him your seeing someone! Good luck honey!

Answer 9

Honestly guys don't realize what it does to a females emotions. All you can really do is politely ask him not to call anymore. I say if he doesn't listen then block his phone number. You really need to put your foot down about this now. Good luck!

Answer 10

why is he doing this you ask? cuz he's a jerk. don't get together with him! theres a reason you broke up with him in the first place! he's just doing it cuz he's stupid and drunk! just ignore it. befor you go to sleep turn your phone of so he can't call you. and if he is still trying to get with you just don't play into it. don't answer him! he will get the message. he is just looking for someone anyone to be with and he doesn't care who! and think about it for a sec he's DRUNK!