Does unconditional true-giving love exist?

Question

It just seems that a couple is always looking for something "beneficial" to them in a relationship.

Is unconditional true love that we give, but not take that difficult to find?

Answer 1

Yes it does...BUY/ADOPT A DOG.

Answer 2

If you give unconditional love , you receive unconditional love,if you are refering to relationship,you have to find a person with good morals that understand the functions of love. Here is an example a mother/father has son who is very naughty,will that parent love him lesser? If a wife has a loving and caring husband, then the husband got sick and invalid,right ! the wife might leave him for another man or might stay and care for him because she love him unconditionaly. If the wife leave him on his pitiful condition,believe me that man will find love and care from another sources, " What you sow, what you reap...

Answer 3

yes, it is hard to find two people who want to give each other unconditional love at the same time. Usually, one is unconditional and the other isn't. Sometimes, unconditional love backfires, and causes the recipient to leave. People who give unconditional love tend to not have lines drawn that keep the other person in line. People like to have boundaries.

Answer 4

Unconditional love does exist, but it's not the wonderful thing you seem to think it is.

Consider: if you love someone unconditionally, it means (by definition) that you love them no matter what they do (or don't do.) So, they could abuse you physically and emotionally, have no respect for you whatsoever, cheat on you and flaunt it in your face, and steal money from your bank account on a regular basis -- but you'd still love them, because your love is unconditional. What kind of a relationship would that be? A terrible one.

Take it from another perspective: what if you kept telling someone to stay away from you, you tried to cut off all ties with them, and got a restraining order -- yet they still insisted that they loved you, and acted accordingly? That's stalking, folks, and that makes for a terrible relationship as well. In fact, it's not really a relationship at all.

Love should be conditional; it just shouldn't be based on conditions that are arbitrary, one-sided and shallow. It should, however, be based on conditions that define what a good relationship is, and provide common ground on which a lifetime of happiness can be based.

Here's an example of the kinds of conditions that love should be based on:

- s/he respects me, and I respect him/her in return;
- s/he supports me, and I support him/her in return;
- I genuinely enjoy his/her company, and s/he enjoys mine;
- s/he is a good person, and believes that I am a good person, too;
- s/he feels the same way that I do about having/raising children;
- s/he and I are compatible in our religious and political views;
- s/he and I are whole and complete people who choose to be together, rather than obsessively needing to be together or needing to be together purely to avoid loneliness;
- I will never cheat on him/her, and s/he will never cheat on me.

In all of the above examples, these are things we expect from a committed, stable relationship, and it's perfectly appropriate to lose our love for someone with whom we cannot have this kind of relationship. Thus, what you're seeking (unconditional love) is not what you really want; you want conditional love where both you and your partner share the same conditions, and seek to fulfill each other's conditons actively and happily.

On the other hand, what if your partner demands expensive gifts regardless of your ability to pay for them? If their love is based on the fulfillment of that condition, then they don't love you; they love the gifts. It's as easy as that to spot unhealthy conditional love, sometimes; if the condition involves you providing something shallow and unimportant that, in providing, you are suffering -- that's a bad thing.

It can be more subtle, too. Perhaps your partner has a condition that you must remain faithful to him/her, but you don't share that condition. Well, technically the problem has nothing to do with the conditions of his/her love, or yours; it has to do with her condition being incompatible with who you are. When your partner (or you) have reasonable and appropriate conditions, but the other person cannot or will not fulfill them, then you're incompatible with each other.

So yes, unconditional love exists, but only with the obsessive, unstable or insane (all bad things) or with your infant children, your parents, your dogs, and (some would say) God (all good things). When it comes to voluntary interpersonal relationships, you should spend your time looking for conditional love for and from a partner whom you're compatible with.

Answer 5

yes it's true but not for everyone!

A person in your life should be a bonus not extra drama!
it may seem that people are looking for beneficial things from people but if you listen why i cry that's what you are a beneficial to me being that shoulder to cry on! that to me is a bonus i mean considering your not pointing and laughing at me for crying then you will remain my friend!
or lover!
hope that helps

Answer 6

The first answer and the one above, usually right It would be nice to think that exists between a Man and Woman

Answer 7

There is something always being recieved and asked for in every relationship, the closest to a "true-giving" relationship that exists is a "joint-I'll help you anyway I can and you'll help me too" relationship.

Answer 8

Very hard to find and give altruistic love. Usually people who have that kind of love in their hearts are very very very spiritual people, i.e. think Jesus, Pope John Paul, Mother Teresa, Ghandi, etc.

Answer 9

I can only hope so, I pray it does exist, but i have yet to experience or find such a love.

Answer 10

It exists and I live and love in it every single day!

Answer 11

Love is a Biochemical con job!