im 15 and i have been good friends with this girl for 5 yrs now and i love her but im scared that if i tell her and she doesn't feel the same that we won't be good friends anymore. what should i do?
2007-02-12 06:48:09 · 19 answers · asked by rugby1234 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think that you should gradually build up, prehaps start by inviting her to the cinema with no other friends and seeing how that goes. Try to get this in before Valentines day if at all possible, even if you can't fit in the cinema try something else.
You can then buy her chocolates or something like that for valentines day and then make a card which says inside how you feel about her, make sure you include that you need to let her know but that you want her to know that if she doesn't feel the same you want to stay friends.
You could even try asking one of her female friends who you are also friends with if there are any if they will ask her about who she fancies and if she likes you, but to say she was just wondering and not that you asked her too. But she can say that you feel the same way if it turns out she does like you.
2007-02-12 07:32:51 · answer #1 · answered by Amie A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont Tell Her You Love Her If Your Not Dating Yet, First As Her To Go Somewhere To Hang Out, But Dont Call It A Date, Then After You Do That For A While Ask Her On A Date, Then When The Times Right Tell Her, Good Luck
2007-02-12 06:53:30 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff Hardys #1 Fan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has there even been a point in your 5 years' friendship a sense of romance or someting that seems to imply more than just friends?
how does she react everytime she sees you?
If she reacts in a calm manner and there has never been any implications of anything more than just friendship, then you will have to ask her personally.
Try to ask in a 'mutual' tone eg. 'do you think we will ever be more than friends?' or 'is there a possibility that we can be something more?'
do not say 'do you love me?' 'do you want a relationship with me?' 'let's take things to the next level'. These questions attacks her as oppose to ask.
'what do you think of me?' can be used but it is very ambiguous.
If you tell her that you love her when things are not clear, you will just scare her. (it would scare anyone.)
If at any point she starts acting reluctant or resistant, stop immediately and forget the whole thing. If she feels the same way, she will probe you to go on.
Good luck
2007-02-12 07:02:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
how does she seem around you? have you gotten any signals from her that suggests she feels the same? If youve been friends for this long you should have an idea, I would only tell her if you think she feels the same, I doubt it would ruin your friendship but it may make things a little difficult for a while if she doesnt feel the same. Good luck with your decision
2007-02-12 07:59:20 · answer #4 · answered by Airyfairy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first off your to young but thats ok now 2nd dont tell her yet ask her if she wants to hang with you sometime and if she says yes that a good sign ok so if you go somewhere that costs money when its comes time to pay say i got it. if she doesnt freak out thats an even better sign
now when you are close to her try to do things like touch her a little like on the arm or lean towards her if she doesnt run away then i think she may like you so
if she does then try to hold her hand and then a couple dates later try to kiss her
but do you see what i am trying to say here
TAKE IT ONE STEP AT A TIME YOU ARE TRYING TO PUSH ALL THE WAY UP TO LOVE WHEN IM SURE YOU REALLY LOVE HER BUT YOU NEED TO GIVE HER TIME TO FEEL THE SAME WAY
2007-02-12 06:54:28 · answer #5 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if your a boy or a girl but it doesn't matter, the answer is the same, if your feelings are that strong you wont be satisfied until you know the answer, she could be feeling the same as you or she just sees you as a friend,, and what happens after that is up to you
2007-02-12 07:34:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her out as a friend go for something to eat...and just say that you have been having these feeling for her...but don't tell her you love her...not yet anyway! wait to see if she likes you too...then start seeing each other then when the time is right...Tell her you love her
2007-02-12 08:00:07 · answer #7 · answered by Danni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well before u do something like that u have to make sure that the girl has some feelings for u first. if she shows no signs of attraction other than just being ur friends then i would say my friend that u r wasting ur time.
2007-02-12 06:54:27 · answer #8 · answered by ivelisse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you could start by just telling her that you like her rather than, 'You love her'.
Besides it might be that she has an inkling of this already if you two have spent five years knowing one another.
Tread carefully and gently.
Good luck.
2007-02-16 04:47:33 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go for it if i was her i would be over the moon that a boy loved me that much if she says no just move on and if she doesn't want to be friends with you anymore she is just being silly as any girl would love for a boy to tell them that thry loved her i know i would be over yhe moon and say YES
so GOOD LUCK
2007-02-12 08:32:35 · answer #10 · answered by kerryann m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋