ok so me an dmy boyfriend got in a fight kinda well he said he needed time to think so he left well i work so i had a babysitter well when i got back the babysitter was gone and the kids were gone so i called her to find out what was going on she said that my boyfriend came to take them to the doctors they are not sick and they have no apomments so i called him and he said he wants to be the father of my kids even if he really aint and the only way that i can see them is if i agruee to marry him i love him and all so i said lets talk about it well he said it is yes or no i want to so i said yes plus i wanted my kids back well know he is being a jerk and i need time away from him and he will not leave me alone he calls me at work to make sure i ain't somewhere else. he called me cell phone place and has a call list of peoplpe i call sent to him so he knows i am not on the phone with any guys what can i do
2007-02-12 06:28:17 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Where you started off wrong was not calling the police....listen, if someone ever kidnapped my daughter, I don't care who this person is, he would be dead! What is wrong with you? I'm sorry if I sound thoughtless, but that was the stupidest thing you could do. I know he's crazy and I don't even know the guy...plus you're putting your kids in the middle of all your crazy a'ss bullsh*t! I really don't know what kind of person you are, but to allow this man in your life, knowing (you can't say you didn't know because a man who is that crazy shows it) that he was a f*cking NUT, knowing that he is dangerous, was STUPID! You had your chance to get out when he took your kids, but instead you stayed and are asking US FOR HELP? Looks like you need more than Yahoo answers to help you out....you need a rifle....better yet, try some common sense, because next time (if there is one) you'll know how to choose better.
2007-02-12 14:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Pea Nis Lover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOO Girl you need to get away from him. What right does he have to take "YOUR" kids away from you when hes not even the father. He is trying to force you into an arrangement that will never work out. He sounds very much like a Controller, and you sure as H*** do not want to live with one of those. Your life would be He**. Best thing you can do is move away from this jerk and leave no forwarding address's. Put your foot down now, and be strong, your kids do not need to be used as a pawn in his sick game...
2007-02-12 14:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by donna_honeycutt47 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think he's a control freak now, imagine what life would be like if you married the jerk. He's playing games with you and using your kids as leverage. Your first priority has to be to protect those babies. So, enlist the aid of their father(s) if necessary, your parents, and law enforcement if necessary to regain physical custody of them. Read the 'list of indicators as to when a person is to be considered dangerous" b/c he falls within that category. Your goal should be to get away from the guy. I'd get a restraining order if necessary. Eventually, you're going to be dealing with child protective services who will likely blame you for failure to protect. You're described one scary scenario. Good Luck
2007-02-12 14:36:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This one has to be YOUR call! I cannot believe anyone is so devoid of common sense that you would not automatically know what to do in such a case. By your actions, you have made yourself a victim of your boyfriend. But, what is worse, you have (and are now) putting your children at risk by refusing to distance yourself from this winner.
YOU have to take action. Talk with Family Services in your area...look it up in the phone book. And, DO what is necessary.
2007-02-12 14:39:14 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your kids and run! If hes not the father there is no judge on this earth that will give them to him. If he is the father then battle him in court he sounds mean and you don't want to be married to someone like that. If he treats you like this you will never know how he will treat your kids as they get older!
2007-02-12 14:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is the kind of relationship you deffinitely dont want to be in. your boyfriend is very jealous. this relationship could end in emotional and/or physical injury to both you and your children. you can call the police and get a restraining order against him if you need to. but either way, find a way out of the relationship, and a way to stay away from him
2007-02-12 14:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to the police or an attorney. That's kidnapping and black male !
Plus the cell phone company shouldn't be able to that with out your auth. unless it's in his name. Take you kids and LEAVE
2007-02-12 14:33:31 · answer #7 · answered by **Red** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wacky guy. is he learning to stalk or what? are these signs of manipulation? think through girl. so what can't a woman have a man friend ? what is his problem? why is he so insecure? Pretty scary they are your kids. why is he taking them to the doctor and they are not sick. and putting you on the spot asking you for him to be the father of the kids.?
ding dong put your thinking cap on ok .
2007-02-12 14:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by shabin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and tell them that he kidnapped your baby. Then have him sit in jail - pick him up on one condition. He pay for the wedding.
2007-02-12 14:31:39 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a restraining order on him before he takes your kids again and holds them hostage like he has already done to you.
2007-02-12 14:33:18 · answer #10 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋