I'm in love with someone who is completely trustworthy. But they have someone in their life that is in love with them. And even though my special someone doesn't reciprocate those feelings I still overreacte ALL the time when they're together. Because I know that they other person is completely and madly in love with my significant other. I make them upset and it causes friction between us when I can't get over this person. But I do know that my significant other is in love with me and has deomonstrated and proven it time and time again.
A while back when we weren't as serious as we are now, I did something stupid that should have cost me this relationship and I didn't own up to it until just recently, but my someone forgave me and still wants to be with me.
My question is this: Is it just me? And is it because I haven't forgiven myself? How do I get over this? I want to be able to have a stable healthy relationship with them, but I always seem to mess things up. What do I do?
2007-02-12 06:19:14 · 7 answers · asked by Musicbaby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it prob is you. but if ur sig. other loves u, y should u be paranoid? she confesed their love, so what do u hv to be jealous about?
2007-02-12 06:24:05 · answer #1 · answered by ashley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you totally trust your significant other then you wouldn't be asking the question. Or, if you really do trust this person then maybe you need to look at your own posible issues. Perhaps you have been in a situation in the past, and I don't necessarily mean an intimate, love relationship, but really any kind, where someone that you trusted let you down and you're afraid to completely trust anyone. If this is the case, then perhaps a self-help book or talking to a professional could help you work through your issues. If you do find that they're your issues, then just remember that it's 'your side of the street' and don't make him/her pay for what you're working on within yourself. It may cost you in the long run.....you'll drive this person away, eventually. Just breathe and look within. The answers will come. Try yoga meditation.
2007-02-12 14:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Con 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is the foundation of any relationship and if you don't have it you have nothing. You say you believe he loves you and your boyfriend does not love this other person but if you really believed that then why do you get mad when you see them together and do stupid things? It sounds to me like you are very insecure. Men do not like insecure or jealous women and maybe he forgave you this one time for whatever it was you did but how many more times will it take before he walks away? If he doesn't care about this other woman then why is he with her? Have you asked him? It sounds to me like he is playing you both.
2007-02-12 15:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by devilgal031948 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to trust this person. I believe since you did it to him you have a fear that he is going to do it to you. You can't think like that. If he has proven that he loves you then you need to trust him. You should laugh in that other persons face because you have him and she don't. Try not to bring it up around him and when you want to fight swallow it and hold it back. There is no sense for fighting if yall love each other. Try and learn to trust. Its the only thing that makes relationships work.
2007-02-12 14:24:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it go or move on! without trust you have nothing! wait until you have a reason to feel this way! see a counselor!
2007-02-12 14:23:34 · answer #5 · answered by bulloch2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look into thier eyes and you shall know the truth
2007-02-12 14:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Daisy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you look in to their eyes.
2007-02-12 14:22:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋