I am in the process of getting divorced after being married for 5 years. Basically, he cheated on me 3 times and I found out on the day he announced that he wanted to leave me. I ended up in a new relationship about 4 months after he left me and it just ended after 8 months. This was a really nice guy, who never gave me any reason to not trust him. He knew how I felt about cheating and assured me he would never cheat on me.
However, I found myself questioning him all the time. I thought that he liked a mutual friend of ours and it drove me crazy. After a while, he couldn't take it anymore and he broke it off. My friends tell me that he should have been more understanding because of my situation, but I don't want to sabotage all of my future relationships because of my bad marriage. How do I stop the jealousy and learn to trust again?
2007-02-12 06:09:06 · 7 answers · asked by Congalineof1 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think he should stand ur situation, look, i been cheated also, but no all the boys are the same, same with girls, u cant bring other guy mistakes to the new relationships, lear, but get over it , if not, u will never be happy . God let this happend because ur ex-husband didnt love u , so , its better this way, find someone u can love and let that person love u back, do it for ur future :)
2007-02-12 06:15:21 · answer #1 · answered by Betty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been in the same situation- being cheated on after a long relationship. It's hard bc you do suspect everything bc of your past. I think the only way to get past it is to see a therapist and talk it through...nothing else has worked for me.
2007-02-12 06:14:09 · answer #2 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through something like you are. I think the honest answer is that we have gotten into something way to quick!! We have not dealt with what has happened so we are judging everyone in the same manner... I hope in time things change.. Try some counselling cannot hurt right! Maybe they have a group for this..LOL see yea there..LMAO
2007-02-12 06:19:32 · answer #3 · answered by BLONDE BEAUTY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really hard to trust men,wether you've ever been hurt by one or not.it's just a gene flaw that most men have.
It sounds like you need to take some time before you get into another relationship,build up you're confidence.You do'nt need a man to do that.
2007-02-12 06:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by lisa m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all don't rush to get another boyfriend. stay by yourself for a while. after that when you find some one, don't become intimate right away. take your time, and untill and unless your are pretty sure of the guy only then become intimate. Get to know his circle of friends before you are intimate with him.
2007-02-12 06:17:40 · answer #5 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first know that whatever they do, theyll have to reap. then know that the longer you concentrate that bad energy on that stuff it takes away from the wonderful person you are. people who cheat have problems. you cant stop whats going to happen anyway so if it does again, hold your chin up and move on.
2007-02-12 06:14:39 · answer #6 · answered by michelle n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello..
ok this is a tough one. trust is hard to gain. the only way ul learn how to trust is to find some1 who is willing to show u hez trust worthy. unless he is willing to prove it to u, there is no way really. he has to show u n prove to u, when he does i think ul be ready :) good luck
2007-02-12 06:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋