I've been with this girl for 6 years, almost 6 years, and recently I've been getting suspicious. She re-assures me she is not doing anything. I've given her chances to end it and she doesn't. Well last night, I told her I "might" come over (usually I always do).. she comes to my house and is upset with me. She says she "needs time to think" about it.. we've done this before and she doesn't think about anything. Nothing gets solved, so I told her, after 6 years, I wanted an answer, are we together or not?? We did this about 2 weeks ago and nothing was solved, really, so I didn't wanna sit around and think about it. We are together or not, right?
After she got upset about it, I re-assured her I loved her and was happy, and everything was fine.It all stems from one guy, basically I've been suspicious.
Was I right or wrong for not letting her "take" time to think? We did this just recently, nothing solved. Tired of it
2007-02-12 05:57:31 · 8 answers · asked by chris e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honeslty, if it has been almost 6 years and she is not being faithful to you she never will be. I know it is easier said than done, but try to find someone that will be good to you and not make you wonder all of the time. And if nothing gets "solved" then nothing ever will. I think it is time to move on.
2007-02-12 06:02:58 · answer #1 · answered by tiffantre 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you if your tired of breaking up for a reason but nothing ever gets solved. However, I think when she says she needs time to think, tell her you agree and don't let her ponder it because you already have evidence she won't be thinking of anything so you do the thinking. The time spent apart, are you missing her? The fact that you can't just call her and say I love you, does it bother you? Does it bother you that she's always saying I need time to think....I would think personally after over 5 years, there would be no time to think unless it's seperation time. That could be jumping to WAY to big of conclusions in this situation however your the one in this situation, only you can decide how big of a conclusion you can make this. Good luck !!!
2007-02-12 14:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've given her chances to " end it"? What? Is she just talking to another guy, or is she seeing and spending a lot of time with another guy? That's a big difference. Six years is a nice junk of time, so I can understand your concern here. Since nothing seems to be going forward for your guys right now, good communication needs to take place so you can know exactly what is going on in this relationship. It might be a good idea to sit down and talk in a place that is not familiar or is a comfort zone for both of you. Changing the setting might spark a better conversation.
2007-02-12 14:07:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is stalling and it seems she is not sure what she wants in the relationship or if she wants it any at all. Giving her time to think was not a very good move because that gives her time to plan her next answer or move to keep stalling the relationship. You deserve to get an answer but if you really want to give her the time let her take all that she needs but remember she is stringing you along and letting you look like the bad guy. Think about that.
2007-02-12 14:16:41 · answer #4 · answered by Alise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's over. She's with that guy. Women get approached by guys all the time. If she's been with you for 6 years she is getting impatient. She has met a guy she is finally have fun with.
Move on.
Trust me.
2007-02-12 14:02:23 · answer #5 · answered by FERNANDO 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you have reason to be suspicious, I think it's perfectly fine the way you handled it. You calmly told her to "think" about y'alls relationship and where y'all stand--especially after 6 years. It's not fair to you, when you are the one asking legitimate questions, you deserve the straight truth.
Good luck to you, and I think you did the right thing.
2007-02-12 14:03:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After being with someone for 6 yrs. it can take awhile to think things over. If she continues to need time to think, you may want to ask her what all her confusion is about and get to the bottom of this.
2007-02-12 14:02:34 · answer #7 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of her,if you have a suspicion,you are probably right. Women like to think they are angels straight out of heaven,but in my wide experience,women will lie,cheat and try to use men any way they can,dont be fooled by their bullshit
2007-02-12 14:08:23 · answer #8 · answered by stef8705 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋