When my girl is hiding "text" messages from me , and possible calls from this one guy. She deletes her text messages and calls. She says it because she doesn't want me to "get mad over it" but yet I told her I wouldn't be mad, as long as she showed me the text. She doesn't. She sleeps by her phone too.
It's a guy I don't care for and when I say stuff about him, she defends him. Yet she says nothing is going on.
I've talked to her about it and she says nothing is going on at all. I told her I would like it if she didn't talk to him and she said thats fine. She makes remarks like, "I won't cuz I am not allowed to talk to him" and she accused me of being controlling, yet he's the ONLY guy I don't want her talking to. She has guy friends but he I don't trust.
What's this mean? Girl of 8 years too, I've been with her, 8 years
2007-02-12 05:47:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sleeps by her phone????
She is in love or thinks she is with this guy, you have every right to be worried...hmm...
2007-02-12 05:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first off, if you don't care who she texts and calls or vice versa why would she say you'd get all mad over it. Obviously there needs to be some trust shown from your end otherwise she'll continue to do it. Now for her to hide the texts regardless is just wrong. If she really cares about you, she'll either stop talking to this guy simply because you asked or just show you the texts and talk to this guy when your around. Seems fishy that she'd go to the extent of one talking to him because you don't like the guy and if she loves you HELLO and two hiding all the information especailly considering you know she's hiding all this information. It's basically up to you on how you want to handle this...If you can't find valid proof that something is happening between your girl and this dude, you either take matters in your own hand and end it or ask her if she really cares about you, why does she continue to talk to him and see what she says. Even if she says they're just friends, state that you don't care for the guy and if she loves you, why wouldn't she stop. Or continue on the same route your in. Leave her and this guy issue alone and continue to be with your girl. Sorry I doubt this helped but you have to consider what is more important to you. Being with her, being with her and this guy, or being on your own to where you don't have to worry about her and that guy. Good luck !!
2007-02-12 13:58:08 · answer #2 · answered by the_wicked_itch_of_the_west 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont you hate **** like this man, what a life. Ummm myself I know your in the relationship for the long run maybe shes finding that this guys has something u dont, shes probably got a little crush on him and whatever, but i feel for u dude your insides must be churning. Good luck
If it gets worse I would possibly think about heading seperate ways
2007-02-12 13:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by M-A- Double T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's bored with you. She's mad at you for not maing your relationship move on to marriage.
She is thinking about another man who fulfills her needs that you are failing to do.
She obviously has something going one with 1 guy. It just takes one guy for your girl to cheat on you with.
She has a thing going on with him. Ignore her, don't talk to her and or hang out with her until she tells you the truth.
But, I have a feeling that you will find out that she will readily jump into his arms once you start ignorning her.
Then, you'll realize that the relationship is broken and its no use trying to save it.
She likes this guy more than she likes you. (Does she ever defend you when she talks to him? Noooo. She trashes you and makes fun of you when she talks to him).
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2007-02-12 13:54:33 · answer #4 · answered by FERNANDO 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should tell her that you don't believe her and that if she says that nothing is going on between her and this guy then why does she hid the texts from him. she is up to some thing be careful. why do you think girls of eight years can't betray thier boyfriends. i had a boyfriend we spent 10 years together and he betrayed me.
good luck
2007-02-12 14:02:36 · answer #5 · answered by Daisy l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so shes def hiding something...maybe the guy has feelings for her...or maybe shes afraid to break things off with you bc of how long u two have been together...if she cant respect your say for her not to talk to him then i think you should move on...all u know is that they talk...but what about when ur at work or not with her?? for all u know they could be meeting up...
2007-02-12 13:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that her and this one guy is having a relation ship or he can be a friend this get the guys number and call him and has what going on with u and your girlfriend
2007-02-12 13:52:57 · answer #7 · answered by babygurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy has a thing for your girl you need to tell her she needs to make a decision. Does she want to have a trust worthy relationship with you or no relationship at all with you?
2007-02-12 13:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by **Red** 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so maybe nothing going on between them.... and maybe not YET. After 8 years she is bored with your relationship and is looking for excitement. It might just be clean fun and she is just flirting.
2007-02-12 13:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by Atousa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is obviously hiding somthing from you. But before you jump to conclusions..be for sure that she is doing something. If can take it anymore then leave her and find you someone else.
2007-02-12 13:51:48 · answer #10 · answered by Shorty06 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋