My ex will not leave me alone!! We were highschool sweethearts and dated for six years an even had a baby together but i ended the relationship because he is a pathalogaical liar and a cheat! I am currently engaged to the man of my dreams. But anyway we have been broken up for a year now and he has a baby with his girlfriend but he still texts and calls me saying he loves me and asks me to meet him a always tell no and do not call again unless it about our child... But when his current girl catches him doing this he lies to her about trying to constanly cheat with me... Its crazy and I'm so sick of it. This has been going on sice i left him even though he is living with his girlfriend. What else should i do? I have even told his girlfriend he needs to leave me alone that a dont love him. Then he will stop for about a month when she threatens to leave him then after about a month he stars up again. What is his problem??
2007-02-12 05:31:48 · 20 answers · asked by Christy R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What about your boyfriend? What does he think? Your ex is a bum in stalker's clothing. Don't take his non-child related texts, phone calls or whatever. If he continues then I suggest getting a harassment restraining order against him. I've had to do it twice. This way they can't call you, show up at your place of employment, drive by your house, call all your family.....
How can you start a new life with this guy hanging around your neck????????
2007-02-12 05:38:08 · answer #1 · answered by Sandra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will have to put your foot down and tell him out right that you dont know what he dont understand when some one say "it is finish" he has alright to his child and that's about it, Let him know in stern words that your interest is elsewhere and if he wont leave you alone base on what he has in his mind you will of course take it to the authorities, because concerning the child is going to be the only way you will talk to him and absolutely nothing more and you definetly mean that. If he dont abide then you will have to figure out some thing else. The courts could let him send money for the child care through the mail or pay it at the courts and you could collect it there.
2007-02-12 05:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by maria fkun 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you must have really put it on him, he doesn't want to let go of that sweet thang!!! It sounds like you're in a tough situation since you have a child together so you have to stay in touch, tell your new man to handle the situation, maybe if he hears it from him he'll back off. Whenever he calls or texts you if you know it isn't about your child don't answer him. He sounds like he has a major problem and he might do something crazy, you never know. You need to get a firm grip on this problem now before it escalates. Does your fiance know he is doing this?
2007-02-12 05:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by frigginhilarious 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to make this a legal matter. Get a restraining order if needed and supervised limited visits since he is your baby's daddy. Then marry the man of your dreams, get full custody with your ex having no parental rights what so ever, get a restraining order and move on with your life. Good luck. I'm serious here by the way. If not for yourself then for your fiance and your child.
2007-02-12 05:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an answering machine or caller ID and stop taking his calls. The reason his still calls you is cause you still answer. I know that you have a child together but if he needs to talk to you about your child he can leave you a message and you can return it. If he starts talking about something other than you child hang up. Trust me I have been through it and doing the above is the only thing that worked.
2007-02-12 05:42:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant change your number cause you have a kid in common, but you dont have to talk to him unless it is about the child you have caller id when he calls have the answer machine pick up screen calls that way you decide when you talk to him. now if this pisses him off and he starts comin by the house and wont leave then go get an op he will get the hint. you can have it set up were someone meets him with the child for his visitation
2007-02-12 05:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Elizabeth Z 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 00:29:53 · answer #7 · answered by intriago 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply this................when you see him calling, let your fiance get the call. If you slip up and answer, as long as your child is with you, ask to call him back and then have your fiance call him back letting him know you're busy.
That's how I'd handle it as long as I had an understanding fiance. Entertaining any of his calls that allow him to explain even briefly his feelings for you and so on, is just a cracked door waiting to be kicked open.
If you're serious about wanting him to stop and he calls you and starts talking lovvy dovvy, hang up!
2007-02-12 05:41:08 · answer #8 · answered by Myndlynd T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just having issues in letting go. Not many people are in relationships that last two years, much less six years. All he needs is time away and time apart. I know you need to stay in touch because of your child, but he needs to get over you - because you are over him. Time takes time.
2007-02-12 05:36:04 · answer #9 · answered by aSchway 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said he is a cheater so maybe he just misses the sex and wants to create an opportunity to cheat for himself.
Sounds a lot like my ex just don't get sucked in and ruin your present relationship
2007-02-12 05:42:47 · answer #10 · answered by pretty face 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋