I am over weight and my physical endowment is not very big. However I do have a great personality and am very good at making people laugh. Do I have the same chance at finding love or should I just give up?
2007-02-12 05:13:23 · 19 answers · asked by kbrearley2001 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sadly in today's world physical appearance is huge to a lot of people. but if they took the time to talk to us they would find that we overweight folks are actually nice people.
of course there are some tubbies out there who are just miserable but i have found most overweight people are nice mainly because we have always had to try so much more than the little blonde gal, or the tall slim man.
and for those of you who answered with the usual "why don't you
do something about your weight?"
many overweight people have physical issues that have caused the weight gain. not all of us, but a number of us can not help where we are. so your condescending remarks are not wanted or needed.
and YOU, don't you dare give up on love! its there, but you can't spend your entire life looking for it. it will find you when the time is right. in the meantime get out there and enjoy life! enjoy your friends! enjoy your family! have fun!
i wish you well and if you are a good and kind person, love will find you!
take good care!
s.b.
2007-02-19 16:05:33 · answer #1 · answered by tess 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Although a great many people are only interested in the physical
side, if you look hard enough you will find one of the few that would rather be treated well than have a hot jerk. I have been with my fiance for 10 yrs, and although he has never had the looks or the endowment he is sweet and kind and if you know how to use it size really doesn't matter. Good luck and don't give up.
2007-02-20 04:24:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lissa1121 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give up. It doesn't matter who you are what you look like or whatever there is someone out there for you. My little brother asks me this all the time and I tell him be who you are say what you feel, I was over weight earlier in my life as well and felt the same way that I was never going to meet anyone. I have only had three relationships in my entire life. Now I have a great girl back home. I decided to change I understand it's hard I have been there trust me, I am a Marine now and it took work and want to work but I'm here I feel great. so that is my advice for you but just don't give up if you're not happy with something change it.
2007-02-20 00:44:51 · answer #3 · answered by allaroundathlete50 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personality is a big thing with many women. Many of us perfer someone who is funny and can make us feel beautiful to someone who looks like a male model on a romance novel cover.
And the other thing is - how do you know that you aren't very big? Or that there isn't a woman out there that will fit you perfectly? There is such a thing as too big you know. I have expereinced that one first hand. Maybe I'm small, who knows - but don't put yourself down because of what you believe to be a small size. There are many women out there that would not see it that way, or be dismayed.
The only thing about being over weight - and this is just me personally - I would want you to trim down. But that is for health reasons - not because of looks. If you met a woman who has the same thoughts, don't feel like you have to change for her. It means she likes you and just wants to have you around for a while.
My husband claims that he is not a looker, never was and is never going to be. But to me - he is the most beautiful person I know. I love him more with each passing day. I love both his personality and his physical appearance (and he too has a couple extra pounds). And he tells me every day how beautiful I am, even though I never really thought I was.
So yes - there is only a chance. Love comes at unexpected times and places, and with unexpected people. Don't change yourself - just be yourself and it will happen.
2007-02-12 05:32:39 · answer #4 · answered by noncrazed 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course you have a chance. Once people get over the physical attraction to someone, they sometimes find that that person is just looks and has nothing else to offer. Don't give up, the right person for you could be looking in all the wrong places to find you.
2007-02-12 05:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem as you do, I'm overweight but have a great personality and a big heart but it seems guys dont notice that about me. I tend to be hard on myself and think oh he wont like me because Im fat etc and when you do that it tend to show and other people can tell you dont like yourself much and no one is going to like you unless you like yourself first. I have a good guy friend who always tells me Im a beautiful person inside and out and that I just need to stop worrying to much and get out there and talk to guys and he garentees Ill find me a man if I do that. Dont give up on love or finding someone it will happen Im sure yeah Im still single myself and struggling with this as well but im learning that I can do it as long as I put my mind to it and doing this has made me like myself way more then I ever use too. Keep your head up lots of people like bigger people ive seen some bigger people with very nice people before so it happens we just half to learn to love ourselves first.
2007-02-20 04:05:03 · answer #6 · answered by Amy D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes yes and no. In answer to your first part of your question yes personality and character or who you really are far out weigh looks or any of that stuff. Your great personality and making people laugh is a plus to me and hopefully to other guys who you're destined to meet. Yes you will find love but you've gotta be willing to put some effort into it. Don't give up no matter what. Because just when you do give up there's mr. right waiting for you but he's missed you because you gave up too soon.
2007-02-12 05:22:59 · answer #7 · answered by dave_83501 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your physical endowment should really not be an issue. You make love to a womans mind and the rest will follow. Treat her right, make her feel special and always remind her shes the most wonderful woman in the world to you and she'll be crazy in love with you.
2007-02-12 05:23:22 · answer #8 · answered by The Wižard 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
personally i gave up a long time ago. But if you feel that you need to change you physical apperance to find love..the change it. If you say your overweight do something about it..cut some bad foods and go walking once in a while. You'll find someone someday! Hopefully we all will!
2007-02-12 05:19:49 · answer #9 · answered by faith 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should never give up on love there is someone out there for everyone it's just realizing that he/she is right there next to you.
Things are ever changing.
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
your chances are as good as anyone else's on this world.
2007-02-12 05:25:09 · answer #10 · answered by jboogie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋