i'm a member of my local freecycle (a group that exchanges free unused/unwanted items). i gave away a vacuum on there yesterday. i told whoever wanted the item that i would like them to come get it that same day and to please not respond unless they can meet those terms. i had someone ask for it. i told them that they could have it but to please come get it. well, the lady responded THE NEXT DAY and asked me to bring it to her. she gave me a guilt trip and told me that she was on oxygen cuz of 2nd hand smoke. i'm not doubting her, and i'm sorry that this is her situation. i'm just a little ticked that she did this. i thought it was completely rude. she took her time to respond back to to me, then asks me to bring it to her not taking any of my daily activities into concideration. i'm a mother of 2 toddlers less than a year apart. all day i take care off errands, homework, cooking, cleaning, kids, etc. then i go to school full-time at night. what would you do?
2007-02-12 05:10:33 · 13 answers · asked by portuguese_tease 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would apologize and say I can't bring it or ask her to arrange for someone else to pick it up.
2007-02-12 05:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say " I am sorry for your disability ( I can't think of a better word), but I am not able to bring you the vacuum. I simply do not have the time to bring this to anyone, that is why I posted it on freecycle so it could be picked up from me. If you have no way of coming to get it, I am sorry but I am going to have to pass along the offer to someone else.
People like that just want a hand out. If she might have approached you differently. I know that I see things like this happen all the time, everyone has an excuse for everything. I mean you could have brought it to goodwill if you were going to bring it somewhere you know. I wouldn't worry about her.
2007-02-12 13:21:37 · answer #2 · answered by bee_girl_18 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Definitely don't take it to her. She should have read the terms before she asked for it. Tell her you cannot possibly bring it to her, you are too busy.
If it makes you feel bad, tell her that although you wanted it collected the same day- which you stated clearly- because of her condition you will allow her a few more days (set a time you are comfortable with, maybe 5 days? Or three if you really want to get rid of it) and if she cannot get someone to pick it up for her in that time, then she cannot have it, and put it back up for someone else. Be fair but firm, which i think this is. Tell her you are sorry but you clearly stated these conditions when you agreed to give it away.
2007-02-12 13:20:10 · answer #3 · answered by Shanti76 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way I see it, you have three choices:
1) Tell her you'll be happy to bring it to her when your schedule permits in the next few days. Get her address and phone number and say you'll call when you're on your way over.
2) Tell her you're sorry but you simply do not have time to bring the item to her. Tell her you're happy to have someone else come pick the item up, if she has someone who can do that for her.
3) Tell her you're sorry but you do not have time to bring it to her and it must be out of your house today. If she cannot meet those terms then you'll have to relist the item.
Decide what you have time and energy for and go with it. No matter what you choose, you are not wrong!!
2007-02-12 15:30:37 · answer #4 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring it to her and if your specific instructions were to come the same day to pick up the vacuum, I would also say that she is no longer eligible to have it and you should put the vacuum back up for someone else to take-END OF STORY! If she knew she was in that condition, she should have asked you about delivering BEFORE she said she would take it. No sympathies!!
2007-02-12 13:20:09 · answer #5 · answered by ataman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just explain to her that it's a shame she can't come get it because you have no way to bring it to her.
Offer to hang on to it for a few days so that she can arrange someone to come get it for her (even a courier) then put it back on the sight as avaialble if she diesn't pick it up in the specified time.
2007-02-12 16:41:29 · answer #6 · answered by babypocket2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell that lady to take a flying leap!
You did not know that she was incapacitated to come|
At least she could have informed you decently what her situation was, and then it may have been possible for you to be a little flexable|
If it were still not possible to make the delivery, they you simply tell her politely that that is so, she says thanks anyways, and that is that|
Is there no justice in society, anymore, as to how people treat one another?
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2007-02-12 15:32:48 · answer #7 · answered by Catholic Philosopher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that there were conditions to your giving the vacuum away. You don't owe her an explanation. The rules were clearly stated on the posting.
2007-02-12 13:15:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
compromise if you can. tell her you can't bring it, but ask if she can find someone else to come for it. but it sound like she's taking advantage kind of. maybe she just needs a vacuum and can't afford to get another one?
2007-02-12 13:21:30 · answer #9 · answered by wendy_da_goodlil_witch 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bring it to her. You may have a difficult time but you are young and have the rest of your life ahead of you. This is someone who would obviousally have problems getting it herself. Maybe in her wisdom she knew to respond anyway. Be a good citizen and help someone out, it won't hurt you, in fact you'll probably recieve good karma in return.
2007-02-12 13:58:53 · answer #10 · answered by RedPower Woman 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋