So..all of you military people, what happens when you, as a parent, file a complaint about a 19 year old private who refuses to not see your 14 year old daughter? He has been warned by her father not to contact her anymore. He has been contributing to her skipping school just so they can see each other. They are sexually active, but, really don't have any real proof. My question is ...will the military step in and help put a stop to it? And if so, what can possibley happen to him? Will he go to jail or something?
2007-02-12 05:02:32 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Already contacted the local authority. They just want to pass the buck. So we contacted internal affairs for the Army. I'm just wondering what they can and will do. I want to see him punished. The daughter is not angel in this situation either.
2007-02-12 05:13:44 · update #1
As I said before, the local police said they will not help because she is a willing participant. She sneaks out to see him, even stole our car to do so. We are having a hard time controlling her. Have tried everything. Her and this guy are determined to see each other. I was hoping the military could intervene and at least make it hard for them to see each other. SHe's unstabile and needs emotional help. Her decisions are impulsive, and he doesn't help the situation either. I think boarding school or juvie is appropriate for her. But, I want him punished also for going against my husband's wishes. My husband gave the guy a second chance to prove he had honor and integrity.
2007-02-12 05:21:06 · update #2
JonD,
Hey thanks for your obnoxious comment. I can assure you that I'm not borderline retarded and we have only had custody of this child for 2 years, asshole! She is the product of her mother's neglect if you must know. We are trying to provide a healthy enviroment which is structured. And it's not going over very well with her. By the way, my husband and myself are educated professionals. I don't know if you'll understand all those big words though. That means that I make more money in 1 week than you make in 2 months, jerk.
2007-02-12 05:28:02 · update #3
JamesM,
You are entitled to your opinion. It's a free country. Did you have any input on this matter, or were you just trolling through the questions trying to see who you could harass today? Sounds to me like you condone this behavior. Hell, you are probably a pediphile yourself. Ivy league my ***.
2007-02-12 08:34:36 · update #4
Internal affairs called us back . They said this guy is in the reserves. So, technically, he is civilian. So, I guess that puts a whole new twist on things.
2007-02-16 01:10:56 · update #5
19 with a 14 is illegal. I would call the military base and see what they say. If all else fails, check with the city police about a restraining order.
2007-02-12 05:08:40 · answer #1 · answered by D.C 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to run, not walk, to your local police department and file a complaint against this predator. It is your responsibility as a parent to keep your daughter safe. You are not her best friend, you are her mother and it is up to you and your husband to end this now. Don't worry about this so-called military man, the military will step in after he is arrested by the police. Don't wait, you need to get this done now. Do not worry about what will happen to him. With any luck, castration will be an option. He is a predator, pure and simple, and he needs to be stopped now before something really bad happens.
Also, I don't know what state you live in, but where I am from a 14 year old kid is never a willing participant. She isn't old enough to be willing. That's why it is called statutory rape. That is why there are laws against this type of behavior. Go back to the police and demand they take action. If they refuse, then take it up another notch and go directly to the district attorney's office to see if they condone this type of behavior.
2007-02-12 05:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Barry M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! I can't believe that the local athoroties have not done anything!! That's just unbelieveable!!!
Anyway, we had a similar situation happen at my last command. Here is what the mother did: she contacted the MP's on base, told them the situation , and he was arrested. Now, the key point is that this guy was taking the girl on base to his room. This is why the MP's could arrest him so fast. He was charged with statutory rape (even though the girl was a willing participant and was 13) and sent to the brig w/ a dishonerable discharge.
Find out if he is residing on base. Then, if that is the case, go to the MP's and tell them what you know and what his name is. Also, in conjunction w/ this find out his command and his Commanding Officer's name (CO) and tell him/her what is happening. Don't go any lower than officer at his command!!!! Go to the hospital and have a OB check her out and from there file a report and charges for statutory rape. You must file these even if she is willing as you are her guardian/parent.
Your avenues are not exhausted and I sinserley hope that this can be taken care of this week to give you more peace of mind. Be aware that either of you might need to take off of work to take care of this situation!!
GL!!!
2007-02-12 07:40:54 · answer #3 · answered by Boo Boo Head 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To accomplish anything like this through military channels you would want to contact his superior be it a platoon sargeant or commander to find out this information you would need to know what company he is a soldier in and then try to contact that company first sargeant or commander. Men or women in those ranks will absolutely have the authority to address his behavior and in my opinion absolutely should and will a it reflects poorly on the military. Men and women in the military are "on duty" 24 hours 7 days a week and have an obligation to act within the law civilian and military Also where the local police don't have legal recourse without evidence. his leadership will use common sense to address the situation. Good Luck. Also if you cant get his information get his phone number at least to forward to a high ranking soldier.
2007-02-12 06:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by ChicagoScottTea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if the child says that it is a consensual relationship there is no such thing as a 14 year old that can decide that. If the Local police are not willing to intervene then it is time to include the state authorities. If a local police outfit is unwilling to enforce the law then there is a mechanism in the state bureaucracy that can handle it. It all depends on which state. The second question is easy, hell yes and rightly so.
2007-02-12 05:58:18 · answer #5 · answered by DietrichVonQuint 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Contact the sexual assault unit for your local police or sheriff department. Since your daughter is only 14 it doesnt matter if she gave consent to the 19 year old or not. Furthermore, if she is mentally unstable, as you say, and has been diagnosed with a mental disorder, she may not be able to legally give consent for sexual relations anyway. Irregardless, because of the age gap, the police would be required to investigate futher. In addition to the police, contact the Military Police and CID unit for the army base this guy is on. Believe me, they would jump all over this..and him...and make sure he gets what he deserves. And yes, that means a large amount of prison time.
2007-02-12 21:25:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you know his unit, contact his first line supervisor or first sergeant. They should step in and try to put a stop to his behavior. At the very least they should give him a stern talking-to, that hopefully will mean more than the father's warnings.
You might also call the military police. If nothing else, they can refer you to someone who can help.
It may be hard to press charges against him without "proof" that they are having sex and without the girl's cooperation. Good luck and I respect you for trying so hard for this girl (who I assume is in a foster situation or something). Don't give up, keep pushing until you get someone to help you.
2007-02-12 08:22:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
the police arent handling this right, regardless if she is willing this is statitory rape. The army doesnt take this lightly. If you know his first and last name and rank, call the base, if you can get his unit even better! you can contact his commander and he will be punished. He could get rank taken away, an article 15(pay cut included in that) and possibly go to jail. The quickest way to get to him could be calling his commander. If you call the base they can usually direct you to numbers.A number that may be listed is MWR, thats the recreation center, but maybe they can pass you a number that can give you another number. This guy is probably counting on the fact that you dont know his unit, and therefore cant report him. Hes a s h i t bag for sure and deserves punishment.or call the base info line or go to the base, to the visitor center, it will be right by the gate on the outside.They may be able to get you a number.Worst case you call the base commander. Pull rank on him
2007-02-12 05:45:41 · answer #8 · answered by cherokee 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. This can bring immediate action on several charges. Unfortunately the legal system requires you have proof of the allegation. I don't know how much effort an agency can put into something like this but you won't know until you try.
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Call the base operator and ask for the Base Senior Enlisted Soldier. It may be titled "Base Sergeant Major" or "Base Senior Enlisted Adviser" depending on what branch you are dealing with. Tell that soldier your story. S/He will investigate and if your charges are founded in fact their will be one very sad 19 year old soldier.
Please do this immediately. Every incident like this brings discredit on the Military and they really will do everything possible to prevent recurrence. I can assure you this will be taken seriously.
Master Sergeant, US Air Force (Ret).
2007-02-12 05:20:47 · answer #9 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would seek a restraining order from a local magistrate.......maybe 500 ft or something like it. I'm not sure why the police do not get involved since Statuatory Rape is still on the books....a 14 yr is not deemed competent thus 'willing participant' is BS.......You also may try the local County Attorney.
2007-02-18 18:52:45 · answer #10 · answered by gbpipe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disregarding the fact that he is in the military, yes he can get int trouble, being that he is in the military can get him into even more trouble, i dont care what branch of service i am sure they would like to b informed of such actions by a service man. Get a hold of his information if you can take it to your local recruiting station for that branch of service and ask to speak to an NCOIC. You can have a talk with them since he is a private he probably came to know your daughter before he joined just ask the NCOIC how to you go about this matter.
2007-02-12 05:12:06 · answer #11 · answered by Secretlyfe 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋