We have a 2 year old little girl at home. I'm a stay at home mom. Me and my fiance are thinking about have another baby. We are just not sure how our 2 year old will handle it.But by time we have another one if we get preganet now she would be almost 3.
2007-02-12 04:56:02 · 26 answers · asked by the_only_one_for_chris_2003 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yes we can afford it.
2007-02-12 05:07:40 · update #1
Our daughter is already potty trained she only needs diapers at nap and bed time.So by time we have another she should be out of that too.
2007-02-12 05:11:50 · update #2
I've had jobs before even after my daughter was born. So i have work experice.I'm going to school online to get my high school deploma then i'm going to take some collage classes online.
2007-02-14 08:01:52 · update #3
Me and my fiancee are getting married in march 2007
2007-02-14 08:03:51 · update #4
It is actually a good idea. I got pregnant when my daughter was 1 year and 7 months old. When I gave birth, she was already two and she adapted really well. The pregnancy was rough and the demands of a toddler increase your fatigue. But our daughters are 3 years and the new one is 8 months old now, and they get along fabulously. They can share clothes and toys. The younger can use the older ones clothes, and you don't have to hold onto anything for too long. And think of when the younger one starts walking. The two of them are close enough in age and size that they can share stuff and keep each other company. Plus there isn't a big gap between them and you don't have to get re-used to changing diapers and long endless nights.
2007-02-12 07:54:40 · answer #1 · answered by Eternal Storm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can decide that. I was in that same boat in the autumn. We conceived in November and our baby number 2 is due on my son's 3rd birthday.
I think that the time is good. We sort of wished we had done it a little closer together.
My son is 2.5, he is very helpful and calm now. Ok, he still is a bit crazy, but managable. He seems quite interested in the fact of the new baby coming to live in the 'computer room', lol.
If you are a stay at home mom, that's a bonus. I work nights and my husband days, so we don't miss out on our son, but it's quite difficult getting rest with one child. I'll have a year off with this baby, and to be home with my son too, which will be nice. Staying at home must be an amazing job. We could probably swing it with me staying at home, but I enjoy working and we have grown accustomed to a certain type of living and we enjoy the extra money my job brings.
Go for it.
Chances are your daughter will be trained by then, she'll be a super big help I bet.
Good luck!
2007-02-12 05:02:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I ask people how far apart their kids are, they are usually about 3 years apart. I follow that up with "Is that a good amount of an age difference?" and the answer is always yes. Some people have an even easier time with a 4-5 year difference, though. A bit less jealousy. I think if you are ready for another in every way, then ask your two year old how they feel about a baby in the house. Give them a baby doll to play with and take care of while you are pregnant. Your two year old will respond differently that when they are three.
2007-02-12 05:01:27 · answer #3 · answered by meimingmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, I work a 12 hour shift 3 or 4 days a week and I have a 3 1/2 year old and a 1 year old(almost 11 1/2 months). It's a handful but my boys are growing up so close. The older one is very jealous but we're dealing with it. To see how tight those boys are going to be is great!!
2007-02-12 05:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by trouble421muah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got pregnant with my second one when my daughter was 15 months old. Their birthdays are 12 days apart (they are just under 2 yrs apart). They are fine. She will adjust. She will probably be a big help too. She can get you diapers and stuff that will make her feel useful. Even at 2 my daughter liked to help out with the baby. I say go for it.
My daughter didn't revert back. She liked being a big sister. All kids are different though, but if you include her, I think she will be fine. My sister and I are 5 yrs apart and we didn't get along very well when we were growing up (we do now) She hated having me tag along with her and her friends and I always wanted to be older so I could be with her. We fought a lot. I wanted my kids closer in age because of that. Even being 2 yrs apart that still comes up sometimes, but it seems to resolve itself quicker. They can do a lot more together than me and my sister could.
2007-02-12 05:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't worry about how your daughter will handle it. Even if she thinks she might when the baby gets here and needs attention then she will think she can change her minds and say never mind don't want it! LOL If you think the timing is right go for it...but get married first...one of the answers above me has it right...it is security. Your two year old will take on your attitude in general so if you are excited and open with her chances are that is how she will be. Expose her to lots of little babies so she can see how they grow and cry! Get her used to seeing you hold a baby and start explaining how they will be very different at first. We had our 26 months apart and love it. Our son is very helpful and loves that his sister loves him so much. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 06:23:30 · answer #6 · answered by Tetsi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as if you have a stable relationship but I'd want to be married before bringing any more children into the world - for their own protection as well as my own. It's twice as hard & expensive to raise two children as it is one. Being a stay-at-home mom is a great job - and a very necessary one but it also puts you at risk if anything happens to your relationship. Women who don't have work experience are often at the mercy of the welfare system and that's not a good way to bring up children. Consider getting at least a part-time job when your little one is able to go to nursery school. Or, go to school and get a degree if you don't have one.
Having said all that, having one's children close together has a lot of advantages - don't worry about the two-year-old . . . she'll probably like it *and* resent it for a while. As long as you make sure that each child is valued, loved and she gets her share of quality time with you she'll adjust.
Being married adds a degree of security to a relationship - if he really loves you and intends to be there for you and the children then he'll go along with getting married. If he doesn't want to do that then I'd be very uneasy about getting pregnant again.
Best to you ...
2007-02-12 05:28:12 · answer #7 · answered by Santal 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is no way to tell how a child will react but it should never stop you from having another. Having them close together can be a good thing and they will have more in come being close in age. I was told to just involve the child in every appointment, every ultrasound, make her feel that she is part of the pregnancy and then when the baby comes she will not feel left out or replaced. She will feel that she had something to do with everything and she will feel special
2007-02-12 04:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
All children react differently... I would say that now is a great time to start... I am 22 weeks, and I have a 2 year old son... He seems to be very excited and he loves babies... He is not around them much at all, but he does like them... and he is always going walking up to me and my husband and he'll touch my hubby's belly and say daddy baby, then touch his own and say my baby... then he;ll come to me and say your baby my baby... he thinks that everyone has a baby... :) He goes wsith us and listens to the heartbeat and all that and he loves it.... Just include her in everything and let her know that it is her baby too and I think it will turn out great!!! We wanted a 3 year difference because we felt it was perfect and we got it.. (a little close though... I am due one week before his 3rd birthday... lol ) When you are ready, it will just be something that your little one will just have to accept...
2007-02-12 05:33:17 · answer #9 · answered by Mommy of 2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a way it could be better for her now rather than later. but in my experience with my 2 oldest there is 19 months between them and it is hell sometimes. i think it would have been easier with twins at least they could do things together more. and with them being a boy and a girl they are not exactly close as i thought they would have been. i mean they fight all the time. although saying all this i had another girl so now they are 6,5 and 2. the older ones still don't get on but both worship the youngest. i guess this means it is totally up to you!!!
2007-02-12 05:06:29 · answer #10 · answered by me plus 4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋