f.y.i they are really strict and conservative. im moving in with my fiancee and i know that the crap is going to hit the fan. . .i need ideas!!
2007-02-12 04:49:34 · 9 answers · asked by Keri Z 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Given that you have already made an adult decision to be engaged (and I am assuming that both you and your fiance are working) .. and have the funds to live on your own .. then just be up front and say to your parents:
I thank you and RESPECT you for all you have done all my life for me, but now that I am an adult, it is time for me to move out and take the FULL RESPONSIBILITY for my actions .. and yes, I am going to do just that. Please remember that I DO love and care for you, and will always Love and Care for you. Now I've already made the decision to be married in the near future, and yes, I would like to take on the additional responsibility of providing all my own expenses at this time (show maturity -- be willing to shoulder the burdens of your own support!).
2007-02-12 05:18:01 · answer #1 · answered by sglmom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't fight, don't be drawn into a fight. Listen to their reasons respectfully, tell them that you appreciate their concern and recognize that they have years of experience and wisdom, and perhaps you are making a mistake, but that you need to get out and live your life and figure some things out all on your own. Tell them that you love them and respect them. If they say really hurtful things, tell them that you are sorry they feel that way, BUT DON'T be drawn into a fight. Stay calm. Good Luck. I moved in with a man when I was 24, and I took my Dad out to lunch and told him, and we had a calm discussion. I was terrified about it.
2007-02-12 13:02:58 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, our kid just moved out an we love it. Life is so much simpler for parents when kids are not there. My kid moved in with a girl and found out she was weird. There's nothing like living together to show people's faults.
2007-02-12 12:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you're over 18 and have your own money, just tell them you're moving out.
Any objections they have, just tell them you know, but you're doing what you think is best for yourself.
And tell them how much you appreciate their concern. That will keep them from getting their tempers up.
2007-02-12 12:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what I did was tell them I am an adult now and it was time I get on with my life and try to do it on my own. They weren't happy but they understood
2007-02-12 12:53:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is something they will just have to accept once you have moved out. You are old enough to do as you please and all parents have to get over it. I suggest you do most of the moving when they are not home.
2007-02-12 12:53:22 · answer #6 · answered by notfreeinnh 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you're an adult, you're an adult. No reason to fight.
That said, be respectful. Things fall through and you don't want to burn bridges. Engagements go kaflooey.
2007-02-12 12:52:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Explain to them that they are too strict and you just want to experience you freedom.
2007-02-12 12:53:19 · answer #8 · answered by satanicvegeta 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you leave when there not home
2007-02-12 12:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by iluvalan_909 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋