caring completly? I mean- I am sick and tired of being so emotional over nothing and caring about those who do not care about me. How can I stop caring?
2007-02-12 04:47:23 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
i used to think the same way... that i should just stop caring so much about everything and everyone, but i realized something eventually. that was me, a loving person, and more emotionally intuitive than them. surround yourself with the people that DO care and are like you, and pity the ones that don't, because maybe they will never feel as bad as you right now, but they will also never feel as good as you do when returned love is there for you, they will never be as passionate about anything as you are about everything. Be proud of who you are and feel sorry for people who will never feel like you do. They may not feel my pain... but still, they will never feel the joy i can when something good does happen, and that's a sacrifice I'm willing to take =]
2007-02-12 05:01:41 · answer #1 · answered by Jaime 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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Caring is part of you. The world is much improved with caring people. Giving of yourself, your time, your money, and support/prayer is what makes the world go around.
The other side of the coin is caring too much. So you have to strike a balance. Draw an imaginary circle around you and your family. Care about you first, getting good emotional health. Don't get into positions of getting "heart-broken" and then focusing on those negative emotions !
Then, put your family in your circle next, if you have a husband/wife/kids. Take care of them too. Don't let the demands of other people ruin the relationships with them.
Draw an imaginary circle around others--if they bump into your circle (aka "boundary"), it's ok, care about them, but don't let them go over your boundary line. That way you are taking care of your good emotional health, and THEY are responsible for what's inside their circle/boundary, not you. That means saying NO sometimes, as in "I don't have the time/energy/money to help you out continually" (instead of saying yes when you mean no). This means also kicking your parents and siblings out to the outer circles; they can take care of themselves unless they have life-threatening problems that you need to pay attention to. You'll be healthier in the long run !
It's simplistic in concept, but it was a good creative image that a counselor described to me.
2007-02-12 12:55:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't have to stop carrying
you should learn to live with what you considere a weakness and turn it into an advantage
i used to have the same issues until a friend trusted me in telling me that he had AIDS...i was then so amazed and happy all of my concerns for the others weren't in vain
seriously, its a gift, not a curse
it's just that society has wrongly taught us that sensibility is a weakness
build up a sstrong wall around you based on true feelings and love instead of becoming an ice cube...
PEACE!
2007-02-12 12:56:13 · answer #3 · answered by ADA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should try to stop caring. I think it's a wonderful thing to be a warm and caring person, and if more people cared the world would be a much nicer place.
2007-02-12 12:51:08 · answer #4 · answered by true blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People do care about you. Just maybe not the emotional response that you want or you have.
You need therapy/counseling to get a better grip on your emotions. Not everything is drama, trauma and chaos. People who do overreact emotionally tend to be attention seekers.
2007-02-12 12:53:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
distract yourself and it will lessen the importance of upsetting things we cannot change...get a hobby or something...jsut fill up your life
2007-02-12 12:51:10 · answer #6 · answered by cherry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep to yourself
2007-02-12 12:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by dardarzene 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋