Why is soo terrifying for me to go to parties?
I was fine when I went to this party and the college kids from my school were there, but after a while I got extremely uncomfortable and everything felt surreal. I drank a little. I felt like I didn't belong there. I felt like crying and finding my quickest way out of there. I didn't want people to get to know the real me. I'm persian, but I have never had persian friends. I don't consider myself american or persian. At times I feel misplaced. I can not be wild and crazy like many of these kids are. It's not in me. Being in the music world, people are usually very open and experimental. I shouldn't have gone to this party. I have no one I can relate to whenever I go to these places. I don't trust the guys. They can at times greatly scare me also. I don't trust them. There are a few I trust, those who are not a part of this party scene. I can not be what is considered to be normal and cool. I am not a great actor like them nor can I bs it.
2007-02-12 04:37:21 · 4 answers · asked by Race Cars 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't suffer from GAD. Believe me. It's the situation.
2007-02-12 04:38:30 · update #1
I'm worried about what the college kids are going to think about me when I see them again. I see them in most of my classes. Should I say that I was drunk?
Everyone probably thinks I'm such a goodie goodie, quiet. Now they're probably going to think I'm psycho because I was so weird toward the end.
2007-02-12 04:41:25 · update #2
It shouldn't matter what others think. There is no such thing as "normal". "Cool" is a state of mind, there is not something you can "do" to be "cool." Stop segregating yourself with your persian american talk. Your a human being just like everyother human being. You have to learn to listen to yourself. If you are ever uncomfortable with a situation just leave. Don't ever do anything just to fit in. As far as the uncomfortable surreal feeling, sounds like you either drank a little too much or someone drugged you. Either way you need to have better situational awareness. Break out of your comfortzone every once in a while, you'll be surprised as to what you can learn.
2007-02-12 05:01:13 · answer #1 · answered by surfdawg32 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh come on, it can't possibly be that bad. You are totally overracting here and just making it worse by thinking about it over and over again.
You were shy at a party! So what? I seriously doubt anyone even noticed you if you were quiet and didn't get "wild".
I would be a LOT more worried about getting wild and crazy and what people would think of that then being shy and not talking to anyone. Chances are most of the people didn't even notice you were there.
2007-02-12 12:47:25 · answer #2 · answered by Mr.Robot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not the party type of person. Don't worry about what others think, tell them you felt very uncomfortable so you decided to go home. Tell them you were drinking and you got to feeling very strange and you didn't like it so you went home to be in a more comfortable environment and you just don't like the feeling that alcohol gives you. You don't feel comfortable being around so many people either you don't like crowds of people you get a panicky feeling and you are not comfortable. They should be fine.
2007-02-12 12:51:42 · answer #3 · answered by Tigerluvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you're shy b'coz you are scared to show who you really are and maybe you are different from from those kids.
2007-02-12 12:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by alec john i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋