My boyfriend and I broke up when I left for college. We attempted the long distance thing, but it didnt work out. I'm tired of hearing give it time, things will get better. I've got plenty to handle, to distract me from thoughts of him. I go out, I concentrate on my studies, I participate in clubs, and activities with friends. I've even gone out on dates to prove to myself that there are other great men out there! I've made a list of the good and bad, then ripped it up. Everything of him is put away in a box. I dont see or speak to him. Nothing seems to work. 18 months is ample time for something like this to heal. And though things may have gotten a little better, the pain still lurks in the shadows. I've accepted that it's over, we can never again be, and its actually for the best. Not a day goes by that he still doesnt cross my mind. Why is it that he so easily has moved on, but yet I'm stuck? How do I finally release this love thats long gone? How do I let go of my first love?
2007-02-12 04:31:15 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get another boyfriend. You can do it.
2007-02-12 04:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by starflower 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe a part of you will always mourn the loss of your first love, first love is special. Eventually you will find a new man, and that will help heal your heart as well. Also, have you thought that you are holding onto these emotions as a crutch of some sort. What kind of payoff are you getting for holding on to these? Do you get sympathy? Do you gain safety, by not being 'ready' to stick your neck out there again for a possible rejection? Give it some thought.
2007-02-12 12:36:34 · answer #2 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never let go of your first love. I haven't seen or spoken to my first love in almost two years, but I still dream about him. I still think of him once in awhile, and I still have stuff he gave me.
I've been married (happily) for some time and have a beautiful child with my husband. I have no desire to be with that guy again, but that doesn't mean I don't miss him.
2007-02-12 12:39:33 · answer #3 · answered by Trisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you've done everything to avoid the problem, yet haven't confronted it directly, in your mind at least. Also, first loves are a bit harder to forget then most, because well, it's your first.
2007-02-12 12:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋