I found out the hard way about my ex. We were in a long term relationship and when we were about to get married, she got a so called "best friend". I questioned it, but she hid it from me. We tried to work things out and she told me everything was going to be okay. Then she never came home. I found out this was more than just a friend. She felt I never changed, but I felt like she kept me along to "change" her mind so she wouldn't move on. I was supportive emotionally, thoughtful, and family oriented. What I think happened was that she had two guys. She looked for every wrinkle in me as a reason to leave, which made the other look more attractive. She left without reason, and I hate her so much for doing that. Then she confuses me by calling me now and then. Has anyone done this to anyone before? I need to know what would cause someone to do this. I am seeing a therapist right now b/c I need answers for me. Why was she so scared to tell me anything?
2007-02-12 04:21:30 · 8 answers · asked by Need Answers 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She's selfish. I've been cheated on before. I saw a therapist afterwards to try to sort through things. Finally, after a while of me trying to put logic to it all, I figured it out: there was no logic to it. They're just selfish people who are weak and insecure about themselves. If anything, I actually pity my ex. Oh, and if you're thinking about taking her back - I did that. I was actually really proud of myself the second time around - I was "the perfect girlfriend" except I always held back. I never once told him during the second stint that I loved him. I was too afraid to trust him. It lasted not even 1 year more. I don't regret it - I found out the answer to the "what if" question. And then he got engaged less than a month after we broke up.
She's in your past. Leave her there. Move on - focus on yourself. Go out and do things that you want to do. Hell go out and do the things you wanted to do while you were with her but couldn't/wouldn't. Hang out with your friends, and remember all the good things that you did in the relationship. Remind yourself that you DO deserve better. You don't yet know what better's name is or what she even looks like. But better will come along when you least expect it. So live your life and become a wiser, stronger person.
2007-02-12 04:31:22 · answer #1 · answered by Tygirljojo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a very hard and tough question.I think the most important thing to do now is take care of yourself and do that therapy which I think will do good for you.Since you said she looked for every wrinkle in you as a reason to break-up,you answered your question;maybe she liked another man and didn`t have the courage to tell you.Or should I say the decency to say so and break-up,but at least give you some reasons!!! And why is she calling you since she was the one who left?Didn`t she hurt you enough?Does she take as a fool? I think you should try and rebalance your life as soon as possible!She definitely does not deserve you for what I see!Good luck!
2007-02-12 04:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by NuclearKitty 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an ex girlfriend that treated me exactly like you describe. She was seeing someone else but would never be upfront with me. I never got a reason why from her. Even when I asked her if she was cheating, she was silent. One thing for sure, I found someone 100 times better and we got married and have now been happily married for 20 years. Try to get over her and find someone who will treat you right. She's not worth the misery you feel.
2016-05-24 01:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she was not scared, she just didn't care. Sorry if it hurts, but that's the way things work. She tried to belittle you so she would feel a little better. She didn't tell you cuz she didn't have the guts. Don't waste your time thinking of such an empty, shallow person. Answers will come in due time, in the meantime, work towards feeling good yourself. you did nothing wrong.
2007-02-12 04:29:13 · answer #4 · answered by dianabarff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't hate her, she obviously fell in love with her friend and realized he was for her instead of you. The verysame thing could happened the other way around. She probably didn't realize how deep in she was until the wedding started to get closer. Get over it and go with your life.
2007-02-12 04:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. If she had doubts, she should have told you way sooner before you invested so much of yourself in the relationship. I hope you feel better. Find a more deserving woman.
2007-02-12 04:29:12 · answer #6 · answered by mcpouches 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a plain old case of just not knowing how to run your woman and not being a man and controlling the hoe properly
2007-02-12 04:29:32 · answer #7 · answered by MagicalPussy V 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girls are very difficult just giver her some space and I bet you she'll let you know
2007-02-12 04:26:32 · answer #8 · answered by Smiley17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋