Ok Im a freshman in college and like my first week at OSU i met a girl. She is so wonderful and fantastic. We had chemistry right away. The only problem is that she has a boyfriend in cleveland so we couldn't hook up. This girl means alot to me. I spend almost all of my spare time with her just talking and laughing and having fun. She totally has the hots for me and i have em for her too. Well one day I tried to make a pass at her. I simply put my hands on her waist and kissed her neck. She hesitated for like 10 seconds before she pushed me away. We both looked at each other and she told me that she liked it but she had a boyfriend. So the next day I asked her If I got a girlfriend would she be jealous. She said that she would be jealous. And i asked her why. She said because I wouldn't have time for her anymore. My question is, Is it fair for her to want all of my attention even though we are not dating (since she has a long distance boyfriend) or what. How do I tell her its not fair?
2007-02-12 04:18:15 · 14 answers · asked by malcom1000 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her that it's not fair that she sends out mixed signals. One minute she wants to be with you, the next she's claiming to have feelings for her boyfriend. She wants to have her cake and eat it too. She needs to make a decision: you or the boyfriend. Just keep in mind if she chooses you, she could do the same thing to you that she's doing to the boyfriend. If she chooses the boyfriend, find somebody who isn't wishy-washy with her feelings. Many blessings.
2007-02-12 04:28:36 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard for two people to really like each other and spend a lot of time together. She is not available and it is selfish of her to stop you from moving on.
That is exactly what you do as a friend to her. You tell her that you respect her and you apologize for coming on to her and it will not happen again as you are moving on.
You find you someone who is available ok.
Be happy dude and let her stay faithful to her out of town out of reach guy.
2007-02-12 12:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Arene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shes selfish just be friends for now tell her u like her alot but considering the circumstances you would like to remain friends cause it is not fair for u to put your life on hold for a girl that has a boyfriend do you cause shes doing her if she really wanted to be with you and NO ONE ELSE she would have left him if he is real she wants her cake and eat it too selfish girl shes not a good girl friend shell be a cool friend
2007-02-12 12:25:58 · answer #3 · answered by maluvsbluecarnations 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it some time, Don't focus all your attention to her, consequences are some other girl or girls passing you by that is maybe much more well worth your time, spending time looking at closed doors keeps you unaware for any other door that opens....
2007-02-12 12:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rhon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be sweet and honest to her. no it's not fair because it looks like she is stringing you along at her convience or taking advantage of your kindness. but, you should really tell her that you definatelly like her and that if you had a chance then explain to her what she would be getting if you guys actually got together exclusively
2007-02-12 12:23:15 · answer #5 · answered by tomi c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no it's not fair, she needs to choose one of you, let her know she can't have you and her boyfriend. tell her you want a girlfriend but your still willing to be her friend as long as she doesn't make trouble for your relationship.
2007-02-12 12:23:37 · answer #6 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be there, it's gonna happen. Expecting a high school romance to survive college is unreasonable. And don't judge her on fidelity she is only a child still.
2007-02-12 12:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Ron H 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hmm, if you stay with her you run the change of missing out on someone else. But if you stay around long enough she might forget about her ex, or maybe get wasted and make a mistake with you. haha
I dunno man, tough call... if you really like her, stick with it. Otherwise find someone else.
2007-02-12 12:21:57 · answer #8 · answered by Afro-Joe the American Hero! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pesistance overcomes resistance
2007-02-12 12:22:15 · answer #9 · answered by winnerfull-1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's very immature. You need to get her out of your life.
2007-02-12 12:21:57 · answer #10 · answered by S K 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋