I have gone out a few times(as friends) with a girl I met at friend's birthday party. Things have always been on a very relaxed level but, I have always found her extremely attractive. I took her out last week to a birthday get together for a friend and we really hit it off. The evening ended with us hooking up, talking for hours, her telling me how much she liked me, us discussing future plans and how highly my friends, whom I've known for many years, have spoken of me. Suddenly, she has fallen off the map. I have called her once, and she was very cold. Later, that week I called asking if she would like to go out, with no reply. I am just trying to get some input on what to do here. Normally, I would just count her out but, I can't seem to let this one go. Any advice?
The big factor in this is that I was not aware until I had known her for a bit was that she is still living with her ex and does not move out until March. Is that playing as a factor at all?
2007-02-12 04:13:38 · 15 answers · asked by maple 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's either she decided she wasn't interested. Or, it definitely could be the ex. He could have found out about it and has asked to back off dating until they move out. I would try her one more time after she moves out. If still nothing, then you have no choice but to let it go.
2007-02-12 04:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Groovy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah i kinda do the same thing, I think my girl does too, we make each other mad, see other people, then just come back together. I mean theres a small chance shes being held captive, but how rare is that. She likely just doesnt know how to say goodbye to people, cause seeing your heart break would hurt her much more than you (in all reality people who wont say goodbye have much more extreme emotions and much less control of them than most, sometimes they r even suicidal when they feel they have hurt other people). She likely would rather run from pain than deal with the consequences of it. That means let her go, she prob cant say goodbye to her "ex" Theres plenty girls out there, give it time :-)
2007-02-12 12:33:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! I had a similar situation not long ago, where everything seemed to be good with a girl and then she totally fell off the map. I don't think mine had the same situation with an ex though. Maybe she's working things out with him? I know you probably don't want to hear that but...
2007-02-12 12:18:57 · answer #3 · answered by mu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the ex has something to do with it. I would try to pass a message along to her through mutual friends. Maybe they can help you get in touch with her. I'm thinking she has been avoiding you because she doesn't want the ex to know about you and/OR they got back together. Don't assume anything though, find out for sure.
2007-02-12 12:20:50 · answer #4 · answered by Hey you! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things might be getting sticky with the ex thing. is there any way to call her other than where he and she live? go back to square one and just be a friend. things sound a little stressful for her and its always good to build a lasting relationship on a good friendship first. but....are you sure he is seriously an ex? check it all out and go from there.
2007-02-12 12:17:50 · answer #5 · answered by igot_terminal_uniqueness 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes living with her ex is part of the problem. i think she met you and really liked you, she was having a good time talking about your futures and such, and then reality set in with her. she knows she is still living with her ex and she thinks it will not work out. you could call her one more time and ask her what happened, ask her if she just stopped liking you or is it because she lives with her ex, she might tell you what's wrong and she might not. if she does not tell you what is wrong i would not pursue it any further.
2007-02-12 12:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Wendy C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on now before u get your heart broken even worse shes not as nice of a girl u think she is theres better for u out there dont call her no more if she wants anything to do with you she ll call you shes cold hearted
2007-02-12 12:19:56 · answer #7 · answered by maluvsbluecarnations 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHE IS STILL LIVING WITH WHO? I THINK YOU NEED TO LET IT GO SHE MIGHT BE STILL TRYING TO FIX THINGS UP WITH THE EX. AND IT SO HAPPEN THAT THINGS WITH HIM GOT BETA RIGHT AFTER SHE MEET YOU AND NOW SHE DOESNT KNOW HOW TO TELL YOU. SO SHE FIGURE THAT BY NOT PICKING UP, YOU WILL GET THE POINT. WELL THATS WHAT I DO WHEN I WANT O GET RID OF SOMEBODY WHO I JUST MEET AND THERE IS NO NEED TO EXPLAIN.. SO GET THE POINT AND START FISHING AGAIN.. THEY ARE PLENTY OF SINGLE FISHES OUT THERE WITH NO EX ISSUES...
2007-02-12 12:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by BUTTERFLY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep in friendly for now. She still has some issues to deal with concerning her ex. Be happy she isn't trying to play both of you.
2007-02-12 12:20:58 · answer #9 · answered by mcpouches 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me as if she doesn't want anything else to do with you. Think of it this way, she is like a movie. You didn't like it all that much so now you can throw it away and watch a better one.
2007-02-12 12:20:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋