My friend is about a month or so along, and she just told her mother that she is pregnant. *my friend is 20* her mother told her that she is going to take her to the doctor to double check that she is in fact pregnant and to see what she(the mother) can do to have her daughter not have the child. like cause her to have a miscarriage.
my friend wants to have the baby and keep it. Can the mother have any say in what happens?
2007-02-12 04:10:31 · 18 answers · asked by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
*she does still live at home, she goes to a community college...and no on campus living......*
2007-02-12 04:23:35 · update #1
*the baby's father is still in the picture, and he's supporting her too...my friend that is*
2007-02-12 04:37:48 · update #2
Legally, no, her mother has absolutely no rights in any decision to terminate her pregancy or her decision to carry the baby to full term and keep it.
Unless your friend specifically signs a HIPPA release form authorizing the Doctor to discuss your friend's treatment to the mother, the mother will not be able to find out the results of the pregnancy test or anything else.
The sticky part would be how close your friend is to her mother, does she still live with her mother, and how much she intends to rely on her mother for emotionaly and/or financial support and whether or not you friend has independent health insurance from say, her employer, or is still on one of her parent's policies if she is going to college.
As she has the rights of an adult, she also has the responsibilties of one and her mother is not obligated to support her financially or provide a place for her to live and now become an independent adult who supports herself financially.
If her mother feels strongly enough about it, she may, at least intiially cut off of or some or all emotional and/or financial support and give her notice that she needs to move out if your friend makes the decision to keep the baby against her mother's wishes.
Should this happen there are many social service agencies that are in nearly every town that will offer their services free of charge that a minimum will refer her to places where she can get whatever help she needs morally, spiritually, and at least temporarily financially.
Hopefully the father of the baby will be supportive of her decision to keep the baby, but if not, he at least can be made to be held financially responsible in the form of Court Ordered Child Support, even if he is a student himself and currently unemployed (but unfortunately, she will not be able to collect until he does get a job).
Your friends will also need your emotional support during this difficult and trying period of her life.
Best of luck to you both!
2007-02-12 04:28:46 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
NO her mother has no say in whether she can keep the baby or not i was in the say situation but i was livin on campus. Truthfully the friend needs to get thing set up so that by the time the baby comes she will have her own place, even if possible live with the father of the child until she gets on her feet!!1
2007-02-12 04:33:15 · answer #2 · answered by help me 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ummm NO if she is 20 she is of legal age. And is sounds like she needs to get a way from her mother. Her mother has no say, in fact, if her mom does indeed TAKE her to the Dr. all your friend has to do is tell the nurse that she doesn't want her in the room and to have no access to her med. records. It sounds like a crazy situation I wish the best for your friend and I hope the child never finds out that it's grandma didn't want it
2007-02-12 04:44:36 · answer #3 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a mother myself and having a baby around that same age, I believe that the mother only has a right to her opinion. However the ultimate and final decision is your friends not the mothers. Just tell your friend to make sure that she is ready to be soley responsible for her and her baby and to make sure that if she decides to have this baby, she does not have to depend on the mother to raise it. Its lovely to have your mothers help in taking care of your child but the mother should not have to take full responsibility for your friend and her child. Maybe this is the mother's fear that is why she is reacting this way. Good Luck to your friend, she can do it on her own if she really wants to, it won't be easy but she will and can do it, if she has the ambition and drive to be successfull in life as well as in motherhood.
2007-02-12 04:25:29 · answer #4 · answered by E. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Her mother has the right to tell her to leave home. She is an adult and the parents are no longer legally responsible for her nor is she responsible for the baby. If your friend plans to keep this baby, she has to get her priorities in order, get a job, an apartment and file for child support from the father of the child.
2007-02-12 04:36:53 · answer #5 · answered by KathyS 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No, your friend is of legal age to keep the baby if she wants to and her mother has nothing to say about it. Even if your friend lives at home her mother can't make her give up her baby. The choice is still her own. If your friend is so naive in believing this she needs to talk to the Dr and tell him how she feels about this baby and what she really wants. No one can force her into anything she doesn't want not even her mother.
2007-02-12 04:22:33 · answer #6 · answered by devilgal031948 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 00:34:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No that's absolutely ridiculous. The mother needs to back off. What if the mother had aborted her own daughter?? It's not her baby and it's not her decision. If your friend goes along with that she will regret it especially if she wants to keep the baby.
2007-02-12 04:18:39 · answer #8 · answered by angel32984 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is 20, that's an adult. Although she can determine whether or not she lives with her anymore. If she thinks her mother will cause her to have a miscarriage she shouldn't be around her. Tell her to contact the dept of human resources in her town. They will help her.
2007-02-12 04:57:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your friends mother doesn't have any say, because your friend isn't a minor.
The doctor can only confirm the pregnancy for the mother if your friends gives consent to do so. If the doctor does this without her consent he/she will be in violation of HIPPA laws.
2007-02-12 04:18:15 · answer #10 · answered by Boo 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋