always being told that you are not as freindly and not as smart? does this happen to you
2007-02-12 03:59:41 · 14 answers · asked by frankie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it hasn't happened to me, but at the end of the day everyone is different, we all have great things about us, it doesn't matter if your not as friendly as your bro or sis, you may be an excellent listening for peoples problems and your bro or sis may be crap at that, its all swings and roundabouts, don't take it personally there traits maybe easier to see than yours it doesnt make you a bad person x
2007-02-12 04:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by Charlotte S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It did happen a lot when I was a child. Even know, in its subtle forms it still happens.
My mother won't say how they are better, but she will say how "gifted" one of the other siblings is.
Maybe your parents say the same things to your siblings when you are not there to hear it. That's just how some parents are and I think they can't help it sometimes.
Myself, as a parent, I can understand how frustrating it is when dealing with a child's temper or some other habit that is very annoying, and it is very easy to think "oh I wish he would be more like his sister, she always puts her stuff away" or some other thought like this. The trick is not to actually say it, because it can hurt feelings, and it seems to communicate that the parent likes the other sibling more.
Yes, I think it happens in most families. Sometimes intentionally sometimes not.
Talk to your parents and tell them how you feel. They probably appreciate some things about you that make you stand apart from your siblings. Maybe you just never heard them say it before.
Good luck
2007-02-12 12:32:33 · answer #2 · answered by kristin c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, hated it. And it happened all my life.
Big brother was the second born, but Mom had always wanted a boy. My sister had serious issues about the way Mom and Dad doted over him at her expense.
I was 12 years younger than this brother. HE was perfect. My teachers remembered teaching him and told me how great he was. My Mom never understood why I couldn't do as well at school as he had. In fact, I couldn't even do as well as her best friend's daughter did. (Straight A for her, B and C average for me.) I was such a disappointment!
He got an advanced college degree that same spring that I graduated from high school. His photo went on display on the piano. Mine was shoved into a cabinet and forgotten.
Years later, Mom was reflecting on the past. She told me that my brother was the only one of all her kids who "turned out." I asked her why she didn't think I'd done well? I was a wife and Mother, and my family was a happy one. She thought it over for a couple minutes before she conceded, "Well, two of my kids, then." But I knew she didn't mean it. I wasn't a PhD like he was.
2007-02-13 00:07:17 · answer #3 · answered by kiwi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi, this hasn't happened to me but happenened to my 2 sons. The younger one (by 2 years) had a bad time at school because teachers were always comparing him to his older brother.
I was furious because both sons are special and very individual, elder one clever mentally, younger one clever with his hands; their dad and I always told both boys that as long as they did their best, that's all that mattered. It caused a lot of upset and rivalry, fortunately they have grown out of it now.
be happy and be yourself Morsel
2007-02-12 12:10:46 · answer #4 · answered by Morsel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, my mother always used to compare me to my sisters, she thought they were alot more capable than me, they were better at cooking etc and yes it did get me down, despite all of this i know that i am a very caring and helpful person, with a good sense of humour and no doubt you are a very special person as well.Everytime she compares you to your siblings just remember that you are unique in your own special way.
2007-02-12 12:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I hate it when I was younger I knew that my bro was the favourite, now a days though I couldn't give a toss.
2007-02-15 15:01:49 · answer #6 · answered by Sash# 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh all the time. my mums saying is "she was so much kinder and giving" but no not like you... thats the thing with older bros or sis. also they turn to you first for the blame because you are younger hate it
2007-02-15 16:19:59 · answer #7 · answered by roxanna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you get over it eventually, especially when he turns out to be a complete social retard with no friends
2007-02-12 12:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by Skippy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, i have a twin sister so it's worse. She seems to just be better at every thing, school stuff and people like her more.
2007-02-12 16:28:34 · answer #9 · answered by cidermoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I love to be compare to my YOUNGER brother. He's my HERO.
2007-02-12 12:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by Monty L 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋