I start a relationship with C. 6 months ago.For 4 months hi diden't ask me nothing,but about 2 months ago he start asking me if I whant to have sex.I love him ,but when i am close I have a repultion and I can't.For him this is a proof of love(having sex) and I know that it realy is.I'm 14 and hi's 18.I don,t know if is right!
2007-02-12 03:40:36 · 24 answers · asked by madakill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweety no, you should never let a guy pressure you to do anything, if he can't love you and respect your wishes and can't understand where your coming from with these repultions around him, ditch him, if you have allready explained to him and he still can't grasp the consept of respect, he's no good, personally I think he's too old for you guys are too over rated at 18, they are mindless and their horomones are raising all they think with is their blanketty blanks if you know what I mean, your too young, get a cute guy your age, maybe he will be more on your level.
2007-02-12 03:48:39 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are many things here that should send off warning bells.
1. He is 18 and you are 14. This is illegal.
2. You say you love him, but you really don't know what love is at 14.
3. Your conscience knows it is wrong, that is why you have "a repultion" when you gent close to him
4. Sex is in no way proof of love. If he knew what love was, at 18, he wouldn't ask. He would be more understanding and patient.
5. You say that you know that it really is, but see number 2 above.
This guy is a predator, looking to get some action from a young girl who doesn't know better. You've been strong so far, but I don't expect that you will hold out forever. Get some distance between the 2 of you. This is the last thing you need at your age.
2007-02-12 03:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by Insurance Biz CT 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He just started asking you to have sex with him out of the blue? That's not a good sign. You could get him in serious trouble, for by law he is an adult and you are a minor. For him to have sex with you is a felony! Also, 4 years may not seem like that big a difference, but at this stage in your life, there is a big difference in maturity. and you haven't really known him that long. Definitly wait. If you love him, cultivate a friendship with him. Two people are more likely to stay together if their relationship is based an more than just physical attraction. If he loves you, he'll respect this decision.
2007-02-12 03:54:49 · answer #3 · answered by Robin the Brave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first, never make decisions like this based on your so called reputation . It matters very little what others think of you . Second its something you should only do when you are ready and with caution . I was 18 when I met the most wonderful woman ive ever known . She was 14 and a virgin . I waited until she was nearly 16 and was ready to make that step . And we both still werent mature enough to be making that kind of decision as we had a child . Dont let other people dictate how you feel though . Make sure you are ready for it and then make sure you educate yourself to the pitfalls as they are many and some so deep theres no way out of them. hope i helped in some small way , cage
2007-02-12 03:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by cage1854 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! You are only 14! You have your whole adult life to enjoy sex, and to be honest with you- it's really not that great when you're this young. You should wait until you are older- when you find someone that you truly love and trust- so it is special.
Have you ever wondered why an 18 year old is dating a 14 year old?
I'm sure you're sweet, but what's his motive? He should be thinking about a career and college, not commiting statutory rape on a minor. Even if you consent, he could still go to jail.
2007-02-12 03:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by 1912 Hudson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OK, i will set my personal beleifs aside for a moment. Honey, you are 14. In most states, any man, especially one who is 18 or older, who has sex with you is guilty of a crime called statutory rape, whether you want to or not. If you get caught, your parents as your legal guardian, can have him arrested and sent to prison. You would have no say in the matter, because you are not legally old enough to consent to sex. Keep your pants on, and wait until the law says you are old enough. This will also give your body time to further mature.
Personally, I beleive sex should be reserved for marriage. If he thinks sex is proof of love, maybe you and he can talk about other ways to prove love. No offense, but his statement send up a red flag.
2007-02-12 03:49:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jimmy R 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
At 14 you are not ready for sex. You might feel love for him, but that could change so quickly, and you are so young...I'm not much older than you, but I am a legal adult. You need to think about what he's thinking. 18 year old boys are thinking about one thing and one thing only, having sex, and if they can brag about having sex with a virgin, they will, so please don't have sex until you feel completely sure within your heart that it is what you want, and with the person that you want. I was with my bf for 3 years before we had sex, and we are still together today. It felt right. Also, why are you with someone who is 4 years older than you? You need to ask yourself what an 18 year old is doing with someone who he legally shouldn't be with yet. Good luck, please be careful and protect yourself.
2007-02-12 03:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by ALFimzadi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it is not right, get to school. Why do kids always want to grow up so fast. Trust me it is not worth it. If you do have sex, then you deserve to get pregnant, have a baby with some punk who won't support you or your child, have all your dreams and hopes crushed because you'll spend the next 18 years caring for your child instead of getting to be one. Keep your pants on and keep boys out of them.
2007-02-12 03:49:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No don't do it . It's total bull if he says that this will prove that you love him. If he loves you and respects you he will understand that you are not ready and that you are 14. Think about what you do before you do it . It may be that once you give it to him he will leave you for someone else and if he says he'll leave you if you don't sleep with him say BYE. You will find someone better trust me
2007-02-12 03:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Proof of love doesn't have to be sex, that to me sounds like a line to talk you into it. First he is 18 and could go to jail for it. Secondly, if you don't want to do it don't let him pressure you, remember if he really cared he'd never pressure you in the least. :-)
2007-02-12 03:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by Will B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋