i have this guy i was considering getting settled with,but now i dont think i can cope.he always wants to be around me and complains of my not asking after him,even if we spoke 12 hours ago.i cant cope with not been able to have a life different from a spouse's own.want to be me even if i have someone to share the life with.what would you do,if you are choked like this?even if you;ve talked about it,and would get angry when you dont comply?
2007-02-12 03:37:19 · 9 answers · asked by bamboke 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
there has to be a good balance of neediness and independence. if there isn't, there will be a problem. talk with him and find out if this is something he's willing to work with you on or if you don't want to talk to him, give him the boot.
2007-02-12 03:48:12 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, being married means that you become one heart, one soul, and one body. If you aren't comfortable with that then you are not ready to be a spouse. If you want a "separate" life outside of your spouses then a healthy marriage is not for you. Opt out and don't waste any more of your bf/fiance's time.
2007-02-12 11:44:58 · answer #2 · answered by Goober W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This means He loves u and don't wana share u
case he is afraid of lossing u, U may b looking a dream to him so when u are not around he thinks dreams over. and try to run back to u.
it is on u that u want somebody who loves u a little more than normal
2007-02-12 11:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by naveedbaig90 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES...Im going through the SAME thing....he is alwaaaays wanting to be with me and gets soooo angry that i want a seperate life besides him, he is always down b/c I am not with him 24/7 like he wants and it is ruining our relationship..Some guys like to be in control, if he is controlling, get out or you will get stuck.....trust me....if he just wants all of your time, explain to him that you need U time and if he doesn't understand, go find someone that will, b/c he is out there. But please, if he is controlling, get out now....Im stuck and scared.
2007-02-12 11:43:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Relationships (marriage) should make you feel loved, content, secure, and give you a sense of belonging. They're not supposed to make you feel smothered, lifeless, frustrated or choked.
2007-02-12 11:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good question.
Some people like control.
But they also do what routine they are used to and what you let them do to you.
Do some thinking apart.
2007-02-12 11:42:01 · answer #6 · answered by Mia l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to him, tell him that you like him, but you don't like the way that he's smothering you.
2007-02-12 11:45:49 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do not understand the whole thing. write more details.
2007-02-12 11:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Iqbal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out now have some fun maybe get a job on a cruise ship..................................................................................
2007-02-12 11:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Harpo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋