I have been "going out" with a bloke for a little while, I asked him, he said that he would go out with me but that he only did "flings" and that he didn't do the girlfriend/boyfriend thing. He said that 99% of his flings he didn't finish. He was married for 25 years and his wife left him for another woman.
I think he is lovely, is it worth pursuing in the hope that something comes out of it
2007-02-12 03:25:45 · 15 answers · asked by Cazza 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
most men are preprogrammed to spread thier seed as it were!
im sorry its the truth!
2007-02-12 03:29:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply put the bloke's scared of commitment if he only does 'flings'. He may seem lovely, but he's probably not worth it in the long run as you'll probably get hurt when it gets too serious for him and he does a runner.
2007-02-12 11:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from the advice from my father in law once a man is hurt it takes a long time to heal and the big word trust agian. when a woman isn't what he wants or is used to than he'll go else where to find what he believes he needs at the time. Leaving soemone for the opposite sex might freeze you up a bit too
2007-02-12 11:32:03 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs.Vick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's obvious that he is very insecure after being hurt so bad in the past, and doesn't want to chance getting hurt that much again, i reckon that if you stay a close friend to him and be there for him when he needs you i think eventully when he is ready he may feel different, but he needs to know that you are going to stay around for him and not leave when things get tough. good luck x
2007-02-12 11:58:56 · answer #4 · answered by Charlotte S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! he doesnt want you why set yourself up for heartbreak?? and dont let him have sex either, or your giving him the best of both worlds he can screw about but always has you as a back up... no relationship! no sex! your not his wife and you didnt leave him, gives him no right to use you!!! find another guy who will respect you enough to want to be yours
2007-02-12 11:33:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ri 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They always want the best of both worlds. If he admits that this is what he is like then he wont change, sorry but they just don't, no matter how much you might want them too.
2007-02-12 11:29:28 · answer #6 · answered by Jo C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men have flings because the women in their lives won't give up the p u s s y often enough
2007-02-12 11:29:45 · answer #7 · answered by MagicalPussy V 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Nothing will ever come of it. At least he's been honest-which is more than you can say for a lot of guys!
2007-02-12 11:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its still a mystery to me but don't hang around hoping that he will change because he won't on the positive side he has been honest with you.
2007-02-12 12:04:41 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants sex without the baggage. don't get involved if you're not prepared to hear that he doesn't want a relationship. don't enter into it thinking you can change him, thats a mistake too many women make.
2007-02-12 11:29:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋