I've tried talking to him, explaining that i need one really bad! I've tried telling him i will give him one also. I've tried threatening that he has to before he gets any! I dont know what to do anymore..hes not very interested in rubbing me! I love him and i want him to do something for me that i love! Oh, and if he actually does rub me, it kills him and he only does it for one minute..if that! its like it takes all his energy! I told him...you know how many guys would love to rub me?!!! wtf! Any suggestions?
2007-02-12 03:22:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
get a new man if he wont rub you
2007-02-18 23:52:14 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest making the massage seem more intimate. It might be a little challenging now that you've asked him so many times... he will be on his guard. You might even have to get him to do it as a gift, like a birthday gift, anniversary, etc. ("all I want for our anniversary is a good 30 minute back rub").
It sounds like right now he views a back rub as work, kind of like a chore. Your goal should be to help him see it as something intimate between the two of you. How you do that is up to you... you know your man better than any of us. Maybe getting turned on by it is a way to accomplish this, but if that happens once and never again he will quickly lose interest, so you probably don't want to fake that.
If you can get him to give you a real back rub, make sure he feels gratified for it. If he feels like you don't appreciate it afterwards, he won't want to do it anymore. But if you respond very positively, like telling him how good it feels, telling him he has great hands, etc. etc. he will be more likely to do it more in the future.
You might want to prepare yourself for the possibility that he just doesn't like to give backrubs. Maybe it's uncomfortable for him, or maybe he just isn't the type. It's not the end of the world. I'm sure he has other qualities that keep you happy. If you find this to be the case, let it go and just buy a massage chair or hand massager or, even better, treat yourself to a massage/day spa every so often. I understand for many women, a professional massage or day spa experience is one of those guilty pleasures that ranks up there with chocolate.
2007-02-20 09:22:38 · answer #2 · answered by wa-webguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ima massage kinda of guy i enjoy doing things that makes a female feel good i give alot of them but dont recieve any i guess were in tha same boat maybe we'll get lucky if he loves u it shouldn't be a big deal if he knew what i do about givin a female a rub down he'd be all over u if he doesnt obey dont do things he ask u to do
2007-02-20 11:26:18 · answer #3 · answered by tutragic07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make it more interesting... spread them and put your legs around him with your tummy down and him standing off the bed. wrap your legs around his back and you can both be pleased... i have never done it better than that!!! he rubs my back and gets some at the same time... works the leg out too... i love it! good luck babe
2007-02-20 00:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by young, hot, and Aussie! (chick) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There has to be a real reason because since you offered to "return the favor" and he still didn't want to, I think he has a sexual hang-up.(old term)
2007-02-19 19:29:14 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pleasingly you ask him he will massage you.
2007-02-20 04:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by TUMU S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him I'll do it if he won't!
2007-02-12 13:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
ask him why tell him that is what loved ones do. duh!
2007-02-20 00:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋