My sister is getting married in October and her and her fiance planned to use the unity candle ceremony. (two candles lit by the mothers are held together to light one candle by bride and groom) Our mother passed away a few years ago and the woman that my dad will soon be marrying doesn't even like the fact that he has kids. Who do you think would be appropriate to have light the candle in place of my mom?
2007-02-12 03:12:17 · 18 answers · asked by crocsrockmysocks 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Your Dad will be walking your sister down the aisle to give her away. He could also light the candle. Other ideas would be family members that have played a special role in her life over the years and maybe since your mother has passed away. Sisters and brothers. Is there an Aunt that was really close while you were growing up? You don't mention if there are grandparents still alive which would also be a wonderful idea.
Have your sister think through the people in her life and who she feels in her heart would be the one to take that spot. It will will appropriate because that is the person she choose. Blessing to you, your sister and her groom, and the family.
2007-02-12 03:23:12 · answer #1 · answered by Margaret K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I got married in an old church that over looked the ocean and had an ocean/water theme. The church didn't allow flame of any sort, so the unity candle was not an option. Instead, we had two pitchers and a vase decorated theme appropriate. In one pitcher, we had red water (just water and red food coloring) and in the other pitcher we had blue (water and blue food coloring). When the time came, my husband and I each took a pitcher and poured them together into the vase. The water became purple. Every one of our guests thought it was a unique and beautiful twist on the unity concept, and it goes well with a water themed wedding. Good luck!
2016-05-24 00:53:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your sister is close to an Aunt or a Cousin maybe they could fill in for your mom while doing the Unity candle ceremony! It really all depends on who your sister wants up there!
2007-02-12 03:17:50 · answer #3 · answered by Samantha A 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The taper candles (the ones the moms light), can be lit from the start of the ceremony. That's actually how it used to be done. Skip the whole part about the tapers being lit during the ceremony.
2007-02-12 04:01:00 · answer #4 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, the mothers dont have to unite the candles. It can just be the groom and bride uniting the family candles and then light the middle candle.
2007-02-12 03:16:17 · answer #5 · answered by Encouragement 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask your grand mother if she is still with if not ask an aunt or you could do it my father step in at my wedding and did it he walked me down and then they lite the candles good luck i have a soon to be step mom who is 2 faced and don't like me and my sister so i know how you feel
2007-02-12 10:17:19 · answer #6 · answered by mjaynor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your father.
My father is deceased, so when I got married, my mom walked me down the aisle.
When it came time to light the unity candle, my FIL escorted my mom and my MIL up to light the candle (the three lit it together), and then my mom walked to the back of the church to walk me down the aisle.
You can have your dad and your sisters FIL escort her MIL up, so everyone's included.
Hope that helps.
2007-02-12 04:07:08 · answer #7 · answered by sylvia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU!!! you're her next closest female relative, right....? so why don't you do it!! or when the candle lighter for the other candles in the church lights the candles, you can have them light the two candles as well....but i think it'd be nice for you to do it!
2007-02-12 04:46:55 · answer #8 · answered by Duelen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say the father, I have been to weddings where the father was dead and the mother walked the bride down, its ok to do what it takes to involve the parents
2007-02-12 03:34:10 · answer #9 · answered by scarlett13854 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can take the place of your mother. If she doesn't like the woman your dad has, then let the DAD do it. I think that would be cool.
2007-02-12 03:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by classic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋