I talked to my daughter's pre-school teacher, and she told me that my daughter doesnt like to do anything but talk, and play with the other children instead of doing her assigned work, and just acts as if she doesnt understand anything, she also said that she might be a slow learner. But at home she writes her name, recites the alpahabet and numbers from 1 to 20. She also knows her colors. I dont understand why she does perfect at home but when she goes to school she doesnt do it.. What can I do to improve this situation? Also teachers even though my daughter can say her ABC's and 123's, when I point to a random number or letter she doesnt know what it is. Are there any methods that I can use to get her to recognize them?
2007-02-12 03:06:43 · 14 answers · asked by VOTE THE SMART WAY! VOTE OBAMA!! 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
When her teachers was talking I wanted to just blast off at her. I felt bad because that's my baby. My daughter started crying because she knew the teacher was about to tell me how she was acting in class. I wanted to just hold her and take her back home with me. Was I wrong for being mad at the her teacher, for telling me the truth?
2007-02-12 03:11:56 · update #1
Your daughter is learning at home, and socializing in school! Good for her....
Now to make everyone happy, there has to be a compromise. A 4 year old can understand "being nice". You have to get her some socializing outside of the classroom!!
A 4 year old won't recognize letters - they learn that in Kindergarden !! To give her a head start, you can play the sound game. A letter and picture on a flashcard, B is for baby, what sound does a B make... and a LOT of books. You should make sure to read to her as often as you can, at least every day.
She isn't a slow learner. There is nothing wrong. :)
2007-02-12 16:37:16 · answer #1 · answered by PinkPrincessNerd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At home she is the center of attention and at school she is just another child.
ALSO you taught her to RECITE words: ""though my daughter can say her ABC's and 123's, when I point to a random number or letter she doesnt know what it is."' SHE DOES NOT KNOW that an A is an a.
Flash cards work, but why don't you let her go at her own pace- these are things a 5 year old in Kindergarden needs to know. Not a 4 year old.
Yes - you are wrong for blaming the teacher. If you don't ease up then your child will not like school and you will have 13 years of hell trying to get her to enjoy it. Don't push her.
2007-02-12 03:23:05 · answer #2 · answered by professorc 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She probably has a hard time concentrating on work when there are so many fun kids to talk to. Sounds like shes right on at home but not so great for teacher probably just needs to be reminded often to return to her work. Make flash cards and work with her on the abc's and 123's til she recognizes them all. This is still not any big problem as she is only in pre school. She amy be one of those girls who need to be reminded to stay on task more than other kids do.
2007-02-12 03:16:04 · answer #3 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know how difficult it is to hear that your baby is having difficulties. My daughter ended up repeating Kindergarten because she liked to talk and just had some general immaturity issues.
I don't think she's a slow learner. Kids this age can be immature, so they're just not ready to sit down and work -- and you wouldn't believe how much they expect out of first graders.
What does the teacher suggest? Four year-olds need a lot of time to talk and they shouldn't have too much seatwork. So it's possible that her teacher's expectations are unrealistic. You could take her to the public kindergarten and see what they think, but I'd be inclined to send my daughter to a different preschool the next year if I had it to do over again.
2007-02-12 03:22:43 · answer #4 · answered by rcpeabody1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She's finally getting to be around a lot of other kids and her mind is totally not on having to do work.I'm guessing at home she doesn't have as many distractions?
And it sounds like she has memorized the ABC's and 123's etc. to that point.But it's like a song,they can memorize a song,but they might not be able to actually read the lyrics.Or remember the exact words without having to sing.
She's still pretty young and it'll take a while for her to settle down.Especially if she's bored with it.
2007-02-12 03:20:18 · answer #5 · answered by rebel_gurl002 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She is only 4 years old. I think that too much pressure is being put on her. She is still a baby. Perhaps she should be transferred to another class where the teacher understands the value of play for a 4 year old.
2007-02-12 03:13:19 · answer #6 · answered by notyou311 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is probably bored at school because the teacher is teaching her something she already knows. Probably if she got more challenging stuff she would show her mettle. Why not approach the problem along those lines and see what happens. She is probably a good actress and is fooling her teacher by pretending she doesn't know. You might have to home school her until she gets older. A lot of options there for you.
2007-02-12 03:12:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anthony F 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your daughter doesn't have respect for her teachers authority. have a meeting with her and her teacher and ask her teacher in front of her to make you aware of everything she does or doesn't do in class. Then don't let her go out and play after school if she doesn't do what she is supposed to in class. When she asks to go out and play simply say "No, you did enough of that at school today instead of doing what you were supposed to be doing". have her teacher send home any and all work that she does not complete in class. She will figure it out fast enough. Just make absolutely sure to reward her good behavior when she does good. As far as her recognizing her ABC's and numbers, there are the Leap Frog learning toys. My kids loved them, the ones where they press the letter and it tells them what it is. And the to reinforce it make some flash cards and play school with her. Mom of 2, one of which loved to play and talk in class.
By the Way: It is much easier to handle these little problems when they are in pre-school than when they are in first or second grade and it really counts.
2007-02-12 03:20:19 · answer #8 · answered by t2ensie 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Rewards are a good way to go.Stickers and cheap and little kids love them.Say if you do good and listen at school you get a sticker.Are those charts at say i did bah bah this day put a check on it and at the end of the week if she's done what's on the chart then she gets a reward.The cheap stuff that kids like are stickers and those little dum-dum suckers.
2007-02-12 03:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by brettbear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having teaching experience, what i observe in general is that the difference of environment and behaviour at home and school is sometimes a major factor that most of the teachers and parents ignore.
Your child is of friendly nature who wants to meet, mix up and play with other children. Perhaps she does not have these kinds of oppoutunities at home. So, at school her preference is to chat and play with other children.
This is a behaviourial problem and you can encounter it by taking your child to walk and other entertainment places quite often.
Once she is satisfied at home with what she likes to do, she would not waste her time in school.
2007-02-12 03:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by Sky Boy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋