How can you rebuilt someone`s trust ?

Question

i want to rebuilt the trust between me and my ex that i dumped twice. how can i ?( he seems quite mad and doesn`t want 2 talk 2 me )

Answer 1

Become trust worthy in mind body and spirit while being congruent in actions and intentions. After you really make these changes if the person can't trust you after some time have passed then they have now become the problem.

Answer 2

Of course he doesn't want to talk to you. You've already hurt him twice, so it doesn't seem like you've given him any reasons to trust you at all. What are you expecting that he will trust you WITH?

I'm quite surprised that he gave you a second chance, and I'd be absolutely shocked if he came back to you a third time. I certainly hope that he would have more respect for himself than that.

You might want to ask yourself why you broke up with him twice, yet want to remain friends if that is truly your goal. And if you're not going to be friends with him, why do you need him to trust you?

He's under no obligation to trust you again. Make up your mind about what you want first. It seems that he already has.

Answer 3

Ask yourself why you want to rebuild trust with this guy. After all you dumped him twice for a reason. He may be mad, but are you even being honest with yourself much less him? People need honesty and if you or he has another agenda in your life such as cheating, alcohol, drugs or even keeping your options, then trust can never be achieved because there will always be that other agenda dragging you away from each other. I assume that you broke up because something didn't feel right to you? If that is the case then why would you want to rebuild trust? Are you keeping him on the shelf in case your current bf doesn't work out either or has that already failed? Are you just afraid of his anger? Then let him heal! Quit jabbing it with trying to be 'just friends'!
I believe that people need honesty and I believe that you are afraid of that kind of vulnerability in your life and so you want him not to hate you, but you don't respect him enough to be straight forward and upfront with him about yourself.
If it was meant to be it will be, if not then you should move on and let him move on as well!

edit; T-rex I get the impression that your answer may be too far along for her to grasp, but it is a great answer!

Answer 4

Yeah. That's going to be hard.

"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me."

He likely feels he's learned all the lessons he needs to learn from your relationship, and it's natural that he's not willing to extend a third chance. All you can do is be patient and honest, and accept his final decision.