Hi, thanks to everyone who replied to my question yesterday regarding Bulimia. I was asking a friend today whether I should get help, her answer was "no one can change your eating habits!"....I know at the end of the day the change has to be in me...but then is there any point in trying to get help at all?? How do you know if you need help or not?
2007-02-12 02:46:45 · 19 answers · asked by SH2007 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
hello there,
I have read the question you posted yesterday and was horrified by the doctor who said you'd grow out of it, as though it was some teenage trend!
I used to do the same thing... and it is strange to say it now as it has been at least 8 years since and at the time i used to convince myself that i was only being sick because i felt full and uncomfortable, but i used to over eat and then be sick.
I am very very different now and have a very balanced healthy out look on food and life. I think some times an eating disorder is not just about food, it is about something inside of us that feels sad or dissatisfied or lonely or a number of other things. You should talk to someone about it as it is a health risk, it put your precious heart under great strain not to mention lots of other things.
I wrote to a clinic to see about getting help and the literature they sent me made me decide to stop... i made the decision that it was no longer an option anymore. I read stories about other people who were bulimic ( far far worse than i was) and i thought to myself "that is not the person i want to be" and i changed...not over night but i began to see things in a better light. I began to see how small things really don't matter all that much in the scheme of things. I learned that what you worry about today will only be a memory next week.
I am not suggesting that you take my advice and don't get professional help, as i think you should talk to someone.. but be careful who you choose... you want someone positive who sees you and not just a person with an eating disorder... you are so much more than that. Concentrate on all of the good positive things about yourself.
Do get some help
and let yourself make the decision to have a great life because it is possible and you can do it.
Every day is a new day. Draw a line under yesterday and start afresh... think positive it makes a huge difference.
Lots of love and kind wishes are being sent to you...
I know you can and will be healthy because you want help and you will succeed.
Talk to your Mom or Dad or someone you think will understand.
My Dad helped me enormously and i can never thank him enough
x
2007-02-12 03:07:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you believe you have a Bulimia problem then that is your start point, the next stop is deciding if you want to live with the issue or not.
If you have decided you cannot live with it the seek help from your GP who can refer you for assessment with a relevent specialist. Eating is a psychological process in part, we eat the kind of food and eat in a way which demonstrates how we feel about and value ourselves. If we do not value ourselves and feel badly about ourselves we can change that by a therapy process, it can be scary and a lot of hard work.
If you think you deserve the help then I would say you are correct and your friend is trying to be supportive but she is wrong, she is a friend afterall, not an Eating Disorders expert.
Go to your GP please, your diet can have so many far reaching effects on your health it's too important to leave to chance. Good Luck!
2007-02-12 03:13:09 · answer #2 · answered by bumbleboi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bulimia is a serious thing. No matter what, you should get help from someone. In this case, your friend is not right. Your eating habits can be changed, and getting help is the best thing you should/could do. Get it now, while it is easier to stop. If you don't soon, you may never stop, and it is unhealthy.
2007-02-12 02:55:11 · answer #3 · answered by Katherine 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you can change on your own and not fail for a month then you don't need help in that month. If you fail, even once, then yes you need help. You can't do it alone. You will always give in because once more isn't a big deal. You can change your eating habits but it takes work to develope new habits. You need people in your life to encourage you and keep you accountable because you will go back to your own ways if you are on your own. Garanteed!!
2007-02-12 03:06:31 · answer #4 · answered by Slimboogy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you having problems with controling your bulima then yes, you need help. It doesnt have to be someone who will tell you what to eat when, but some who deals with the underlying issues.
Why do you eat and then throw up? Is it because it is one thing you can control? Is it because you feel it is the only way to get thin?
A fresh pair of eyes will see deeper than the people who are close to you, who love you and who are worried about you.
Good luck.
2007-02-12 02:51:49 · answer #5 · answered by natasha * 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tackling Bulimia is not about eating habits it is about addressing the issues in your life that have caused you to be bulimic. And yes it is worth dealing with these issues.
2007-02-12 03:30:45 · answer #6 · answered by deepee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think if you have any sign of bulimia, then you definitely need help. There are hundreds of people to help you, but your friend is right - it has got to eventually come from you. Stop it now - it will ruin you for the rest of your lovely long life that you have to look forward to.
2007-02-12 02:50:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you are asking intelligent questions. If you think you need help, by all means go get help. Yes, you need to decide if you want to change or not, but the more information you get on the subject, the better equipped you are to know if you need help and want to seek it out. And that is the point of seeking help.
2007-02-12 02:57:30 · answer #8 · answered by Katykins 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Bulimia is a eating disorder. If you think you are a bulimic, please consult your doc. It's not about eating habits actually, but more of a psychological problem. Maybe you are stressed out something that causes you to not eat right.
2007-02-12 02:56:14 · answer #9 · answered by chardonnayormerlot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say get help, but the doctors are so bloody useless when it comes to mental health issues, especially eating disorders. If you can get to the bottom of the issue yourself, than do, otherwise you might have to splash out and go private to see a decent doctor, the NHS ones are such rubbish it'll just make you wish you hadn't bothered.
2007-02-12 03:05:28 · answer #10 · answered by Princess Paradox 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋